Persiancat Posted April 9, 2016 Posted April 9, 2016 Think of a girl who doesn't get casually involved with anyone. Especially in a place where everyone else does and is the norm theses days.
SammySammy Posted April 9, 2016 Posted April 9, 2016 I think she's an individual. Makes her own choices. Like everybody else.
Timshel Posted April 9, 2016 Posted April 9, 2016 Think of a girl who doesn't get casually involved with anyone. Especially in a place where everyone else does and is the norm theses days. Not everyone does. Not a guy but I have never done 'casual' and have no problem. Be yourself...unless you want to be with someone who really has no clue who 'you' are whilst you have the displeasure of knowing that you have compromised and diminished your own self for nefarious and superficial gratification. If 'everybody' is doing it.....
OneLov Posted April 9, 2016 Posted April 9, 2016 She's a girl that's not into casual encounters. Where is this "place" that it is the "norm" for "everyone" to get casually involved?
len51 Posted April 9, 2016 Posted April 9, 2016 Really no thoughts about it. My wife was a virgin at 20. My first girlfriend was a virgin until we were 16 and I was with her for 3 more years after that. After her came a string of short term girlfriends who were and were not experienced. Then a year living with a girl who dated other guys as well as me but lived with me. More like friends with benefits since we never went out on a date. I really did not judge any of them or did it even bother me how many times and how many guys they had sex with. Just a footnote: After we married my wife expressed curiosity about how sex would be with other guys. Did they do it like I did, would she feel different things with them, etc.. We did a little wife swapping and soft swinging and that is when my wife found out that she was bi and had a need for both me and a woman in her life. She is lucky that she married me because not many husbands would be OK with their wife's girlfriend living with them. Imagine if I was a strict religious or monogamist person. Our marriage would have been doomed. I advise young couples to make sure they are sexually compatible before marriage. Love clouds your mind with chemicals that make you overlook many things. Just search the internet to find millions of spouses who are unhappy with their sex lives. Most did not have any, or a lot of sexual experience before marriage. 1
oldshirt Posted April 9, 2016 Posted April 9, 2016 Think of a girl who doesn't get casually involved with anyone. Especially in a place where everyone else does and is the norm theses days. To assume that 'everyone' does it and that it is 'the norm' is kind of erroneous and not an accurate assumption. A better way to word it is that by the time someone is in their upper 20s or early 30s, many if not most people will experience some form of casual encounter or some kind of short term relationship that didn't last very long. But that is not to say that most people are routinely engaging in casual flings as a lifestyle choice. In answer to your question I think the answer is very simple - the guys that are interested in an actual relationship will see someone who doesn't engage in casual encounters/FBs/FWBs etc as a plus. The guys who are looking for a quick hook up will pass you by.
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