MachineGunFunk Posted April 9, 2016 Posted April 9, 2016 (edited) When do you think is the perfect time to ask someone out? (not on a date as in relationship). I noticed some girls will reject you even if they do like you. There's like a certain strategy??? This girl is super flirty but she will never say yes. We don't really know each other that well and I don't like her friends. I've never told her that I don't like her friends. Edited April 9, 2016 by MachineGunFunk
d0nnivain Posted April 9, 2016 Posted April 9, 2016 What? I'm not sure what you are asking. You need to get the date before you can even talk about having a relationship. There is never a perfect time to do anything. The closest you are going to get to "perfect" is a time when you are feeling confident & you can simultaneously command her undivided attention. Good luck. 1
Author MachineGunFunk Posted April 9, 2016 Author Posted April 9, 2016 Thats a satisfying enough answer. Thanks.
Gloria25 Posted April 9, 2016 Posted April 9, 2016 (edited) I say a good time is to strike up a casual convo with them, establish rapport, and then ask. If you just walk up to a stranger (unless you're in a bar/club) and just ask them out, even though TV and the movies make it seem normal, in real life it is just awkward. Also, you the time you do decide to strike up a convo with them, you don't necessarily have to ask them right then and there...sometimes a few convos, and really establishing rapport, getting a feel for her and then asking would be best. Why don't you like her friends? Are the C-blockers? BTW, geesh, I do this sometimes. I'll like a guy, but I'll avoid him. I guess I do it cuz I "do" like him. Does that make any sense? I guess not. I guess, it makes sense cuz although I like him, I may have doubts about whether or not we're a match, whether or not its worth it, etc. By the time I make up my mind to make a move, I guess I come off as awkward. :/ Edited April 9, 2016 by Gloria25 1
Author MachineGunFunk Posted April 9, 2016 Author Posted April 9, 2016 (edited) They're stupid druggies. They think they're hot stuff but they really aren't, and they are a**holes. They're so fake and its so cringy. Edited April 9, 2016 by MachineGunFunk
Gloria25 Posted April 9, 2016 Posted April 9, 2016 They're stupid druggies. They think they're hot stuff but they really aren't, and they are a**holes. They're so fake and its so cringy. Well, ever hear of the saying 'Birds of a feather...'? I mean, if she hangs with chicks like that, then what does that say about her? 3
SammySammy Posted April 9, 2016 Posted April 9, 2016 When they ask YOU out. Think about this: Being authentic - true to yourself - how do you have to be for a person to want to spend more time with you? What does it take to go from being nice and flirting to wanting to get to know you better? What level of rapport? What level of interest? What you're looking for is some indication they want more time with you. Even if it's nonverbal. Then you ask. Or accept. 1
smackie9 Posted April 9, 2016 Posted April 9, 2016 Well, ever hear of the saying 'Birds of a feather...'? I mean, if she hangs with chicks like that, then what does that say about her? Or "you are the company that you keep". She may seem super fly, but maybe not so much if you are in a relationship with her. He friends are part of the package deal.
Clockwork Posted April 9, 2016 Posted April 9, 2016 When is the best time to ask someone out? Yesterday.
ff12343 Posted April 9, 2016 Posted April 9, 2016 Perfect time was yesterday. Next best time is today.
Author MachineGunFunk Posted April 9, 2016 Author Posted April 9, 2016 (edited) Well, ever hear of the saying 'Birds of a feather...'? I mean, if she hangs with chicks like that, then what does that say about her? She's nice but stupid to hang out with them; I'm ashamed. She's also a party girl. Also the weirdest part is I tried to move on and I heard a voice that told me, "Are you sure" and I was freaked out. I forgot to mention I asked her out and she would usually say I don't know until I said either yes or no and she said no. I asked again and she said no and she got annoyed. Now my friend told her I want to be friends with her and want to start all over (although I didn't tell him to say that, but wouldn't mind to) and she said sure. I'm confused with her. She really doesn't know what to do between committing herself in a relationship or just being a loser party girl. If I go NC now, she'll think I'm just leading her on and being an a**hole. I really want to date this girl even though she's stupid, but at the same time; her friends bother me so much I can't really get a chance at getting to know her. I haven't told her how I felt about her friends and not sure if it would make a big difference. I feel like that is a really risky move. Her friends are just a bunch of arrogants who think they're too cool to hang out with people like me, but ironically they do drugs. It really bothers me. I think about this girl all the time and don't know how I should approach getting to know her. I've asked if I can hang out with her and she just said she was busy (really wasn't interested) and said to just hang out with her friends. Edited April 9, 2016 by MachineGunFunk
Versacehottie Posted April 9, 2016 Posted April 9, 2016 My guess is that if this is her crowd that even if she "likes" you that she resists saying yes because she is influenced by her peers and what they would think/say. If she is a party girl, typically at that time in her life right now, she will jump from guy to guy, have fun with her friends and somewhat ignore or reject a guy who would be good for her or has nothing really to offer in the party world (status, money, a promoter, etc). That's just the blunt truth. I'd be kinda concerned if I were you that she doesn't have the strength of character to act on her own instincts (she's attracted to you but overly influenced by her lifestyle). But I have to say it's not totally uncommon and can apply in lots of different situations where lifestyles don't match up. And to answer your question about the perfect time to ask a girl out, there's really isn't one set answer. I guess when the flow of the conversation is right is the BEST. But I have a feeling that your real question is: when is the perfect time to ask someone out TO GET A POSITIVE RESPONSE? You can stack the deck in your favor a bit but ultimately she either wants to go out or not and timing the question won't influence the response by very much. Good luck
Author MachineGunFunk Posted April 9, 2016 Author Posted April 9, 2016 She's confused. I'll try my best to know her but if it doesn't get anywhere I can at least say I tried really.
d0nnivain Posted April 9, 2016 Posted April 9, 2016 Stop trying. She is too influenced by her friends to act on her own. She has already said no twice. At some point your persistence crosses into obsession & stalking.
Author MachineGunFunk Posted April 9, 2016 Author Posted April 9, 2016 Stop trying. She is too influenced by her friends to act on her own. She has already said no twice. At some point your persistence crosses into obsession & stalking. I'll just try being friends and maybe I can influence more. She still likes me so I still have a chance. I don't want to move on. I feel like me and her can have something.
d0nnivain Posted April 10, 2016 Posted April 10, 2016 Sticking around & being her friend will get you friend-zoned. She will see you as her buddy not BF material. You will have a front row seat to her next relationship. Is that really what you want? Just because you think that you two can have something does not mean she thinks that is a possibility. She has already told you twice that she does not want to date you. You're wasting your time here.
Author MachineGunFunk Posted April 12, 2016 Author Posted April 12, 2016 (edited) But I won't stick around. If I see that it ends up nowhere thats where I just tell her how I feel or just ignore her. I only got plenty of time to make this right. Thing is I was never really her friend so getting to know her would open up opportunities. She's been giving me mixed signals to me and its been so confusing with her. I think the only reason she said no and idk was because I kept annoying her. But at least I'll have a friend. I have never shown my true colors to her so I believe I have a chance. I'm going to keep an open mind and see where this ends. Edited April 12, 2016 by MachineGunFunk
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