livinglife2019 Posted April 8, 2016 Posted April 8, 2016 Long story short we met online, Basically I don't know where I stand with him. We met online, began chatting and eventually exchanged numbers. Shortly after he added me on Facebook and Snapchat. We met up and ended up sleeping together this happened twice. I thought everything was going smoothly we texted everyday and he was full of compliments. Recently. He began to get a little distant. I asked if he would like to meet up and go to the movies and he explained that he was going away for work and that it would have to be the following week. A week later I asked if he wanted to have drinks and he postponed again this time it was a family emergency his brother was in hospital. I sent him this text "Hope your bothers ok? Also if its a case that you have lost interest, its fine just let me know?. I'm brutal at picking up on signals! lol" He replied a little while later explaining that it wasn't the case. Its was just bad timing. The next day which was my Bday he texted me wishing me a happy birthday and began texting like we used to. but has since stopped and only texts one way texts "A text I cant reply too" I do like this guy but I don't know where I stand. He also hasn't made an effort to reschedule at all, but i'm not sure if its because hes too laid back or just isn't interested at all. Any help or advice would be appreciated
Satu Posted April 8, 2016 Posted April 8, 2016 You should leave it to him now. He knows you are interested. If he is interested he will contact you, and ask you to meet up. 1
RecentChange Posted April 8, 2016 Posted April 8, 2016 Yep.... stop chasing. If he is interested he will contact you. Sounds like he isn't particularly at this time for whatever reason. 2
katiegrl Posted April 8, 2016 Posted April 8, 2016 I sent him this text "Hope your bothers ok? Also if its a case that you have lost interest, its fine just let me know?. I'm brutal at picking up on signals! lol" He replied a little while later explaining that it wasn't the case. Its was just bad timing. The next day which was my Bday he texted me wishing me a happy birthday and began texting like we used to. but has since stopped and only texts one way texts "A text I cant reply too" Sweetie what he meant by that is that the reason why he stopped pursuing you was bad timing, not because he lost interest. I dunno perhaps he phrased it that way because he did not want to hurt your feelings, but if I were you, I would consider it over and start dating other guys. 1
Author livinglife2019 Posted April 8, 2016 Author Posted April 8, 2016 Sweetie what he meant by that is that the reason why he stopped pursuing you was bad timing, not because he lost interest. I dunno perhaps he phrased it that way because he did not want to hurt your feelings, but if I were you, I would consider it over and start dating other guys. Thanks for that Katiegrl, I never looked at it that way. Maybe your onto something. His full message was ( Haha no its actually not that at all! just bad timing I will know if i can meet you when i leave the office. ) 1
katiegrl Posted April 8, 2016 Posted April 8, 2016 Thanks for that Katiegrl, I never looked at it that way. Maybe your onto something. His full message was ( Haha no its actually not that at all! just bad timing I will know if i can meet you when i leave the office. ) Okay that's different. Yeah the full message was important. So did he meet you when he left the office? 2
Author livinglife2019 Posted April 8, 2016 Author Posted April 8, 2016 Okay that's different. Yeah the full message was important. So did he meet you when he left the office? Really Appreciate your help! We didn't meet up, he told me he had to drive his mother to the hospital as she cant drive and she wanted to go to the hospital to make sure her other son was ok. I do believe him for some strange reason as I don't think he would be the type to lie about something like that. 1
katiegrl Posted April 8, 2016 Posted April 8, 2016 Really Appreciate your help! We didn't meet up, he told me he had to drive his mother to the hospital as she cant drive and she wanted to go to the hospital to make sure her other son was ok. I do believe him for some strange reason as I don't think he would be the type to lie about something like that. Has he rescheduled, asked you out again? And don't mean to be debbie downer, but you have not been dating him long enough to know what "type" he is. It takes a long time knowing someone before we can determine that. Family illness is like the number one excuse people use when they want to break a date. It avoids the other person being mad at them.... because well hey, they have an illness in the family to contend with! Just sayin. 2
Author livinglife2019 Posted April 8, 2016 Author Posted April 8, 2016 Has he rescheduled, asked you out again? And don't mean to be debbie downer, but you have not been dating him long enough to know what "type" he is. It takes a long time knowing someone before we can determine that. Family illness is like the number one excuse people use when they want to break a date. It avoids the other person being mad at them.... because well hey, they have an illness in the family to contend with! Just sayin. He hasn't rescheduled at all. But you are right in what you stay. Someone once told me. Fly and they will follow, follow and they will fly. I think I might just take a step back and let him make the first move. 3
fred123 Posted April 9, 2016 Posted April 9, 2016 Long story short we met online, Basically I don't know where I stand with him. We met online, began chatting and eventually exchanged numbers. Shortly after he added me on Facebook and Snapchat. We met up and ended up sleeping together this happened twice. I thought everything was going smoothly we texted everyday and he was full of compliments. Recently. He began to get a little distant. I asked if he would like to meet up and go to the movies and he explained that he was going away for work and that it would have to be the following week. A week later I asked if he wanted to have drinks and he postponed again this time it was a family emergency his brother was in hospital. I sent him this text "Hope your bothers ok? Also if its a case that you have lost interest, its fine just let me know?. I'm brutal at picking up on signals! lol" He replied a little while later explaining that it wasn't the case. Its was just bad timing. The next day which was my Bday he texted me wishing me a happy birthday and began texting like we used to. but has since stopped and only texts one way texts "A text I cant reply too" I do like this guy but I don't know where I stand. He also hasn't made an effort to reschedule at all, but i'm not sure if its because hes too laid back or just isn't interested at all. Any help or advice would be appreciated Did you sleep with him the first time you met? Im curious
Author livinglife2019 Posted April 9, 2016 Author Posted April 9, 2016 Did you sleep with him the first time you met? Im curious We fooled around but nothing major if you know what I mean!
Carpe Diem Posted April 9, 2016 Posted April 9, 2016 Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but I'm going to echo the earlier posters, I suspect he got what he wanted within the first little while. You had never met him before and "fooled around" a little within hours. The rest came quickly. A huge sign is the always available, always answering texting frequency before "the rest" and then the slow slide into the busy, not right now, please answer my texts zone. He may call you again, most likely for a booty call; followed again by the maybe zone. If this is what you're looking for, go for it. If you are searching for a decent relationship and longer term partner, try friendship first, sex second. Read these boards, a large chunk of the posts are of the "I put out and now I'm getting blown off" variety.
Recommended Posts