GottaBeBoosted Posted April 8, 2016 Posted April 8, 2016 I've been dating a guy for about 2 years. He works out of town during the week so we only get to see each other on the weekends.. It seems like the only time he wants to go anywhere (out to eat, or go anywhere) is when his friends go too. The only thing he wants to do with just me is lay around the house... I feel like our time on the weekends is precious & I would like to do something fun just the two of us, but that's just not ever an option. Maybe I just don't understand because I really don't have many friends. I am more than happy to go out with all his friends, that's not the issue. I would just enjoy a nice night every once in a while when it's just us. I am home alone all week so when he finally comes home on the weekends, I have missed him & I want to be selfish sometimes... This also isn't the first relationship I've had where he always, always, always, wants his friends around.. Maybe I'm just boring as hell. Haha. Opinions anyone?
PegNosePete Posted April 8, 2016 Posted April 8, 2016 It doesn't sound like you're very compatible if you have such a mis-match in how you enjoy spending your time together.
carhill Posted April 8, 2016 Posted April 8, 2016 Invite him out on a date for 'just us tonight, honey'. See what happens. 2
SwordofFlame Posted April 8, 2016 Posted April 8, 2016 Why don't you plan some dates instead of wanting him to do it all the time? 1
losangelena Posted April 8, 2016 Posted April 8, 2016 He sounds like my ex a little, he was always more comfortable with his friends around. I agree with the others. If you haven't already tried, plan something and invite him. Or just tell him what you're doing. See what happens.
Author GottaBeBoosted Posted April 8, 2016 Author Posted April 8, 2016 Why don't you plan some dates instead of wanting him to do it all the time? Touche.. I wonder if that's a lot of my problem. He always mentions how exhausted he is when he does get home, so I'm too afraid to suggest anything. Maybe I should just do it anyway.
carhill Posted April 8, 2016 Posted April 8, 2016 Sure, this is where communication helps. Presuming you all are having a great time alone, after that is a point where you can share your enjoyment of his friends and also your desire to spend time with him one on one. Spice up the 'one on one' comment with a little 'personal attention', attention he might not be getting with his friends looking on. See how it goes.
Author GottaBeBoosted Posted April 8, 2016 Author Posted April 8, 2016 Sure, this is where communication helps. Presuming you all are having a great time alone, after that is a point where you can share your enjoyment of his friends and also your desire to spend time with him one on one. Spice up the 'one on one' comment with a little 'personal attention', attention he might not be getting with his friends looking on. See how it goes. That's true. Sounds like a plan that can't fail.
Gaeta Posted April 8, 2016 Posted April 8, 2016 May I ask how old you 2 are? If he works all week and only have his weekends to see family, friends, and girlfriend than you need to share his time with all the other people that love and want to see him. I would ask of him to dedicate 1 night on the weekend that it's your night together, no one else. Make plans ahead of time, it's the only way you'll get out of the house. Everyone is tired on weekend but if we know ahead of time we have an outing then we prepare ourselves mentally that we're going out.
Erik30 Posted April 8, 2016 Posted April 8, 2016 I think he got lazy because he already "has" you, so he's not making an effort anymore. He's become used to just having you around. 3
MachineGunFunk Posted April 9, 2016 Posted April 9, 2016 Yes guys need a friend for everything. I just believe you need to communicate your feelings before you lose control of it. 1
Author GottaBeBoosted Posted April 12, 2016 Author Posted April 12, 2016 May I ask how old you 2 are? If he works all week and only have his weekends to see family, friends, and girlfriend than you need to share his time with all the other people that love and want to see him. I would ask of him to dedicate 1 night on the weekend that it's your night together, no one else. Make plans ahead of time, it's the only way you'll get out of the house. Everyone is tired on weekend but if we know ahead of time we have an outing then we prepare ourselves mentally that we're going out. We are 28 & 30. That's all I'm asking, just an occasional outing that is just the two of us. I have no problem letting him spend time with his friends and family. I just couldn't tell you the last time, we actually got to do anything that was just the two of us.
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