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I went out with a guy who I'm somewhat interested in, a couple times. He keeps texting me (out of the blue) asking how my day was. I'll reply and he never replies back. So annoying.. What's up with that? I can't help but think he sends a mass text out to different people..

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ForeverAloneOnEarth Member

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I honestly do not know why people do this. Many others are experiencing the same issue with both guys and girls.

 

My best friend will ignore my text sometimes and when i ask why she gets mad, lol.

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I went out with a guy who I'm somewhat interested in, a couple times. He keeps texting me (out of the blue) asking how my day was. I'll reply and he never replies back. So annoying.. What's up with that? I can't help but think he sends a mass text out to different people..

 

Just break this pattern. Don't answer him next time - only voice calls. If he asks you what the matter is just answer you're too busy to text him back.

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mrldii Established Member

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My best guess is they're waiting for the winning reply that says something like,

 

"My day was 'blah' and boring. Wanna come over to Netflix and chill?"

 

 

 

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smudge21 Established Member

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They're just making sure you're still around, still talking to them, still waiting on their every word. I get the same from girls when I go quiet on them (usually after they've gone quiet on me). It'll be that same sort of thing and I'll reply with something similar. May even get another one back but then it'll suddenly stop, even if I've asked a question. It's like they don't want you in their lives, but they just like the idea that they have someone hanging around just in case. Best bet, slow down the responses or don't reply at all. Either should show how interested they are, if at all.

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katiegrl Established Member

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I went out with a guy who I'm somewhat interested in, a couple times. He keeps texting me (out of the blue) asking how my day was. I'll reply and he never replies back. So annoying.. What's up with that? I can't help but think he sends a mass text out to different people..

 

Yup he is juggling and doing his regular *check ins*.... giving you just enough (barely) until it is *your* turn to have another date with.

 

You are just one of many.

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Jabron1 Established Member

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It's a clumsy attempt at a feeler text. He's testing the hook.

 

Or maybe it's not so clumsy, and his interest in you is just very low. Depends on the guy, I suppose.

 

It's a test to see if you are an option, basically.

Michelle ma Belle Established Member

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So f*cking annoying when they do that.

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jen1447 Established Member

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So f*cking annoying when they do that.

 

I know right? There's a certain amount of it that has to be owned tho ....they wouldn't do it if they knew they couldn't get away with it. ;)

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Chris2016 Established Member

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Somebody's doing that with me and I kind of don't care. I guess it depends on how much you like the person?

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Would it be unimaginable to think that he's just checking in, saying hi, waiting for your reply and then going about his day until he sees you, without any bad motives?

Michelle ma Belle Established Member

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I know right? There's a certain amount of it that has to be owned tho ....they wouldn't do it if they knew they couldn't get away with it. ;)

 

Exactly! I tend to give someone the benefit of the doubt once or twice but then after that...I stop responding myself. NEXT!

 

Message received loud and clear.

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jen1447 Established Member

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Exactly! I tend to give someone the benefit of the doubt once or twice but then after that...I stop responding myself. NEXT!

 

Message received loud and clear.

 

I've gone the opposite direction (with ppl significant enough to know better) and texted them "call me asap" later on. So they call thinking sth's wrong and I say "Is everything ok? I thought sth was wrong." They figure it out before long.

 

Ha, we should collab on a texting management manual. ;)

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ClausVon New Member

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Haha I see you there. Take a look at my only thread about a similar situation. Hope it helps.

 

It's really annoying, I know, but I've decided to calm down, play it cool and try not to analyze too much because I won't know the answer anyway

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Miss Peach Established Member

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Agree with the others... it's just a way to give you your ration of crumbs for the week and see if you're still part of his harem.

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Chris2016 Established Member

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Hmm, yeah OP, if this doesn't fly with you (you're not compatible?) then you need cut that sh*t and find someone else.

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Just break this pattern. Don't answer him next time - only voice calls. If he asks you what the matter is just answer you're too busy to text him back.

 

I don't understand the logic behind this.

 

OP - How long has this been going on and how often does it happen? There's a difference between if it's been happening for months vs. within a few weeks. Either way, if it annoys you and you like him, just call him out on it. It's likely for the reasons already posted here, or it could be something else.

 

This usually isn't a big deal to me, but it did bother me once because it was in the early stages and I really liked the guy! I straight up asked him what was up and are we doing this or not because I don't have time for guessing games. Turns out he just wasn't much of a texter and didn't really see a need for a reply back. He was also really busy at the time and that how's your day text was his way of checking in and keeping communication open until he asked me out again because he really liked me too. We talked about it and it never happened intentionally again. And when it does happen, I understand why. This was the same guy who taught me to chill out a bit when it comes to dating.

 

If it turns out that the guy is just a massive dbag and sending mass texts to everyone like you suspected, then you'll know too.

 

People get away with so much crap when it comes to dating because they never get called out on it, and you're the one left wondering wtf is going on.

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