Should I maintain NC?

[blue_daisy]

I'm on the 8th day of NC and I keep getting urges to visit his Facebook (although I have unfriended him) even just to see his face at his display picture. Our common friend tag the both of us once at a photo and when I saw his name I just can't help but feel that I miss him so much.

 

It's been two months since we met and he text me "Maybe we'll end up together, but no promises." This gave me hope at that time but now it's just plain torture. Part of me wants to hang onto this glimmer of hope and the other part of me is trying to convince myself that he did not mean what he said.

 

I feel like giving him a text and tell him just kill the hope and stop my torture. But that will break NC. Someone please help me.

[mightycpa]

If you do text him, text him this:

 

We're not really going to end up together, are we?

Most people aren't mean enough to kill your hope outright. Given that line of BS he fed you, I'd have to say he's one of them.

 

Instead of texting to get strung along more instead of getting the truth, you'd be much better off accepting that your brain has figured it out, and your heart will fall in line eventually.

 

You don't need him to understand the reality of your situation.

[smudge21]

No Promises...? Really? This guy sounds like a dick. Sorry, but there's no way I'd say that to anyone unless I wanted to really hurt them emotionally, especially if I knew they were into me so strongly. Do not break NC for this worm, you'll only hurt yourself and get nothing good back from it. Stay away from social media, seriously, deactivate your account. That thing is a nightmare for anyone going through a break up and will always hold you back. It's only been 8 days and these things take time. Stay strong, there's much better out there for you.

[Marco Valerio]

I believe, for what you've said, that he's quite a selfish fellow. He wants you there just in case anything better comes around.

You should never want in your life someone who doesn't value you as you deserve.

Accept you need to move on, and try to do your best. He's not worth it, he's not the one for you. Someone else is out there for you, believe me.

[blue_daisy]

Thanks guys. Somehow I feel better when you guys were calling him names and saying that he's selfish. I guess maybe I was bugging him too much in the beginning begging him to take me back and he just wanted to get rid of me.

 

I think I will not text him because I wouldn't want to get more BS from him. That would bring me back to square one.

[drewbee30]

Stay in NC. I'm just out of a 10 year relationship. Broke contact after 20 days, 2 days later felt like ****, she broke contact 9 days later! 2 days later guess what, I felt like ****. I'm back at 21 days NC. It's a struggle, but I'm tired of the hurt!