miss fortune Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Quick question because I am curious what you guys make of this. When I tell my b/f I miss him, he says "yeah right" or "dont lie" or something similar To me, thats a way of getting out of saying it back Then when he cant get a hold of me right away he jokes that I must be with another boyfriend...?? How should I respond when he says stuff like "yeah right"? He has told me he missed me before but it seems when I say it -- its just not the same effect. Should I not tell him this?
Artscrafter Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Well, society pressures guys to hide their emotions, so words like "I love you " or "I miss you" don't come as easily to us. Heck, there were days when I've loved <i>and</i> missed my (recent) gf and so far the only time I've managed to get the words out were in writing. But I digress. Regardless of whether the act of saying he misses you seems weird to him, saying "don't lie" or "yeah right" sounds like more than just his way of avoiding saying it back. "You too" is a relatively easy thing for a guy to bring himself to say. What he's saying sounds more dismissive than anything. It's definitely not the response I'd like to get. And between doubting that you really miss him and joking about other boyfriends... Sounds like he's got some insecurity to deal with.
Mary3 Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 That would not last for me if I told my bf that I missed him and he said " Yeah Right " instead of " I missed you too " Everything in your letter indicates : He does not express emotions clearly He is insecure and doubts things you say He has probrobly been dissed by more than one girl so stays neutral on his responses. I would not waste my time with someone like that. I would need someone a little more demonstrative in their feelings. Not " OH GOD baby I LOVE YOU " Not quite to that degree but if he loves me , he needs to SHOW me ...or tell me ....but actions speak louder than words...
Author miss fortune Posted June 17, 2005 Author Posted June 17, 2005 yeah he has had some pretty awful relationship experiences and I dont think I have been helping lately with my irrational actions. But he does SHOW me he loves me by taking care of me and watching out for me. Verbally though, hes not so great at that.
Horse Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 He's just insecure because he was cheated on before, but he's a guy so he's trying not to make a big deal about it.
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