SiaLv82 Posted April 6, 2016 Posted April 6, 2016 30 days ago I went NC due to us wanting different things. We casually dated for four months. I got to the point emotionally where I wanted exclusivity. He took me to meet the family. After meeting family, I found the "options open" rude and disrespectful, so I told him I was no longer feeling it, went NC, and started dating op. I wanted exclusivity. He did not. Three weeks after NC he called on easter weekend to get together. I keep going back and forth about calling him and it's been a week. I was briefly dating someone since him. I knew the guy previously. That date hasn't panned out - so it's not like I been sitting at home. Ive been on three different dates so far with a fourth this coming weekend. BUT I still miss him. The truth is since his call I can't stop thinking about it. I have a 3-4 month rule max for allowing a guy to figure out what he wants. He is 33 and I am 34. We are too old to be doing casual. I figure anything beyond that time frame I am wasting my time. I really want to call him back but I don't know what to say to be honest. I'm still torn up over it. Obviously I have feelings for the guy. Part of me says no and to continue dating others until I find a relationship. Another part of me wants to call him just to see why he wants. If its an apology then I don't want or need it. And it's just going to take me back to square one seeing him. But that small chance of what-if.....What would you do? What would you say? Torn.
Zahara Posted April 6, 2016 Posted April 6, 2016 Did you actually tell him that the reason you were moving on was because you had different expectations and that is why you needed to end it?
Author SiaLv82 Posted April 6, 2016 Author Posted April 6, 2016 I told him via text that I was tired of dating someone who was keeping his options open and I was done with it. He was aware I wanted more of a commitment even if that meant in the end we would not work out.
Zahara Posted April 6, 2016 Posted April 6, 2016 Personally, I would stay NC. He knows your expectations and if there was anything more he could add to make this work and if he wanted to make it work, he'd express it and request for you to meet with him.
Author SiaLv82 Posted April 6, 2016 Author Posted April 6, 2016 Yes, that's what he did. He called left message for us to get together...go for a walk or grab something to eat. I haven't returned his call.
Satu Posted April 7, 2016 Posted April 7, 2016 Unless he's changed into a completely different person since you split up, nothing will be any different. 1
Zahara Posted April 7, 2016 Posted April 7, 2016 Yes, that's what he did. He called left message for us to get together...go for a walk or grab something to eat. I haven't returned his call. Asking to get together to go for a walk or to grab something to eat doesn't mean anything but a guy that's just trying to see if you'll dismiss your expectations and resume where you both left off. If he wanted to make it work with you or at least take it to the next level, I'm sure he would have expressed those thoughts via the call/message and if not hearing from you for a week has left him silent, chances are there isn't anything significant going on in his head. 1
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