susanl Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 Ok so I have posted before but on a different subject. I am dating this wonderful guy for almost two years. We get along great, great fun, great sex, his kids like me etc....my kids are kinda of out of the picture a junior in college and a rising freshmen in college. So help ---!!!!He wants his ex wife to still be friends with him--but she doesn't like me. Won't do anything with him and the kids if I am around. Now up until the other day I was fine with having her around--you guys know she will always be their mom no matter how bad she treats him or how much of a bitch she is. Well my daughter is working and my son is on vacation(senior trip) so I am alone and the other night he knew that but instead of asking me to come up and eat dinner he asked his ex. Then I always spend wednesday night with him and he said he would rather work in the yard and go to bed,------boy that one hurt. So I decided to weed the garden and take the dog for a walk--anyhow didn't take the cell phone and about 2 hours later he showed up at the house pissed because I didn't answer the cell phone. For those of you who know me I travel 30 min each way to spend the night with him----ususally wed and the weekend. Anyhow he was really mad I didn't answer the phone but I was trying to be calm and not mad--after he came over I said well this is what I was doing but hey why don't you stay here--, even told him I was hurt about the ex wifes dinner and his response was well I have to take my daughter to basketball camp tomorrow at 9--now during the school year I got up at 5 am just to make it home to wake my son and get him breakfast. So my question is we are supposed to go on vacation on saturday--I rented a condo he has one free--this would accomodate his kids and friends and my daughter. My vote is to cancel it and take a vacation with my daughter--just to prove a point. By the way he IM me today and said I love you but glad I didn't have to go through any drama today--a**h***. In the mean time I know I am stupid but went up there today and straightend out his house and did the wash so he wouldn't have to--he has yet to say anything. Someone help--I love this guy emmensly but I don't want another failed relationship and I don't want to be taken advantage of--but yet he loves me. Any suggestions my daughter and I are looking to take a different vacation just the two of us--she is 20 maybe to arizona to get some sun and let my SO--fend for himself--but comeon guys Ineed some help--I am so upset and a headache
Groovy Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 You want to cancel a vacation just to prove a point? I'd say don't go if you two will argue in front of your kids, that's why you should choose not to go. Communication is everything and it doesn't sound like that exists for you right now. You say you don't want another "failed" relationship. But if either one cannot communicate it is destined to fail- regardless of whether your willing to talk it out. Give it time, we all have our set backs. I'd just say let him know you don't want to talk a vacation until until you get an issue causing some tension resolved, but that you do love him.
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