She was diagnosed bipolar, then lost her job then broke up with me

[Bob1540]

Edgier friend of two years. Met at work, and she is from out of state. Things were great until about three months ago when company announced they would be having layoffs in two months. The she get diagnosed with being bi polar and given pills after one 45 minute meeting with a dr. Month later she loses her job and breaks up with me the next day via text.

Back story got in a big fight over New Years, made up. Then weekend of Valentine's Day she tried to break up with me cause she didn't know what she wanted anymore, but we stayed together. I chalked all this up to it being the depression talking, and the fact that each week she was stressed cause she never knew I'd it was going to be the week she would get let go. Finally after two months of wondering she got the axe. Side note, we had been looking at rings for months and I had traveled over Christmas to stay with her family for a week. We where looking at rings five days before she broke up with me.

 

Anyways. Broke up with me via text. I went to her house to talk and she said she couldn't do this anymore and was going to move back to the east coast and wanted to be with friends before she left. I have it a week and reached out and asked if it was really over. She was super cold and said "yea thought I made that clear last time" I asked to talk she said she was going to a spring break thing at this trashy beach. ( she's 27 and I'm 30). Not exactly something we do anymore. I ask her to text me when she gets back tell her I love her she says " I will". She text me but was very cold. I'm back. I say glad you made it back safe. Whole time she is posting rediculous stuff on social media almost as if she's trying to get back at me for something. I offered her financial emotional any type of support I could I told her a month ago I planned on marrying her hence looking at rings. Well we haven't spoke or seen each other coming up on a month and I know she is moving 1000 miles away in the next two months or. So. I guess I want her back but I'm so hurt at how she just flipped the switch on me. I knew things were kinda rocky the last few months but was I just living in. A fantasy bond and she had been pulling away the whole time ?

[Zahara]

Who knows what's going on in her head. What you need to do is stop contacting her and let go of your grip on her. It's an ending. She's broken up with you. Time to move on.

 

I can't imagine why you'd be looking for rings when you're in a situation whereby you're constantly waiting for an axe to fall.

[Satu]

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I guess I want her back but I'm so hurt at how she just flipped the switch on me. I knew things were kinda rocky the last few months but was I just living in. A fantasy bond and she had been pulling away the whole time ?

 

At this point you'd be best to begin a process of conscious disengagement.

 

Any kind of holding on will just bring you more pain.

 

 

*No direct contact.

*No sending or receiving of messages.

*Block any means she might use to contact you.

*No replies to anything that gets through your blocks.

*No indirect contact through third parties.

*De-friend or delete from all social media.

*No monitoring of her on social media.

*No 'little birds' feeding you news.

*Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying.

 

 

Take care.

[Bob1540]

Yea I know. That's my question why the hell would she be looking at rings with me then be like see ya later. Feel like I was just her crutch to lean on while she was in a new town for the last two years. Who knows. So many layers to the onion. Since our last text weeks ago. I have de friended her in all social media. But Facebook where she sends updates near me or place I use to take her even though she lives thirty minutes away and never came downtown. Either way I haven't reached out to her in anyway