LovelyJoey Posted April 5, 2016 Posted April 5, 2016 I made a previous post called "Left again," but long story short, I got left again by a girl I really cared about, though we weren't dating the way we would always talk and act and message and just be together, made my life actually worth living. I finally had someone who truly cared and she always told me she'd never leave me, we got so insanely close. Then out of the blue, her and her friend just decide to leave (unfriend me on skype, etc.)... without telling me why at all, we may have not been dating and it might've been online, but my whole world's been turned upside down, some times I feel strong, other times like now I want to die. I tried my best to not enter triggering environments, but I just left a server we always used to play on in Minecraft, and they were there, saw and ignored me (of course) and were playing with this guy I assume they were all in a skype call with like we used to, and generally this guy doesn't like me. We were all best friends, the 3 of us, and this 1 girl gave me a will to live, then just left me, no reason... I'm alone again, I reach out to my loved ones and friends but I can't help feeling miserable and that it's all my fault. I honestly feel like I want to die. Nothing bad happened, at all... just one minute everything perfect, next... she left me... she said she never would and I don't know what to do anymore... I can't stop being depressed and wanting someone else to fill in the gap, only I need to heal and not get hurt again, not saying I will be hurt again but I need time to heal, I can't stop seeing other girls as new chances and I don't think it's good for me to get close to ANOTHER GIRL... I really need advice.. and yes I've already begged and done what I could, maybe not the best decision but, it's just not the friends I used to know, and the 1 girl especially... never thought this would happen, she was always there for me. Thank you for reading and any advice would be immensely appreciated, have a nice night all.
lolablue17 Posted April 5, 2016 Posted April 5, 2016 Only she knows the reason of her behavior. Thing that people say when they are in love are valid only to the moment they're been said. She's probably unstable, which is common when you're young. I'm so sorry for your pain. Move on and be strong. 1
Author LovelyJoey Posted April 5, 2016 Author Posted April 5, 2016 Thank you, it just hurts a lot and makes no sense, kind of trusted my whole life and everything I had left with her. Didn't think it would happen but you're right, thank you for your kind words, make me feel better. Have a wonderful night!
ExpatInItaly Posted April 5, 2016 Posted April 5, 2016 Hi there, OP. I read your other thread and have some thoughts. First, you need to not get so attached to people you meet through online gaming. You describe it as practically dating, but that's not dating. Dating involved meeting in person and spending time together in real life. As far as I can surmise, that wasn't the case here. You are placing far greater value on these online friendships than they are. That doesn't mean they didn't enjoy talking to you, but please don't assume it's romantic. Second, you say these girls made your life worth living. That is a big problem. You need to cultivate a happy and fulfilling life on your own first. Another person shouldn't have that much power and influence to make or break you, emotionally. What are your hobbies and interests apart from gaming? Do you work, study? Gaming can certainly be a fun diversion for a lot of people, but you should not be relying on it for your sole source of entertainment and personal connections. Third, I can understand why you're hurt. It's not fun to feel suddenly cut out of someone's life and it will sting for a little while. But please, use this time to reflect on your choices and actions. Ask yourself why you're pinning all your dreams on some random girl from an online game, rather than seeking out connections in real life. Put your energy into building up your self-esteem and self-worth; this will help you build healthier relationships with real foundations in the future. 3
Author LovelyJoey Posted April 5, 2016 Author Posted April 5, 2016 Wow, thank you. I guess your right, just been lonely and needy of someone I guess, but I never really thought of it on the level of why I let others have soo much power when it comes to my life. Thank you truly, I do get too emotionally attached, I guess because I've always been such an optimistic hopeful person who always expected everything to be okay till I got a taste of the real world. Though when it came to these relationships, I didn't just assume things were romantic, and even if they weren't, they gave me a lot of reasons to get attached to them so emotionally :/ though you're right I should reflect on my choices and actions for a better future. Again thank you all, these forums really do help mend a broken heart.
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