tim_90 Posted April 4, 2016 Posted April 4, 2016 Hey all, hope you're all well. I have been reminiscing over my last relationship recently. We split 2 and a half months ago now and it hit me pretty bad, considering it was a fairly short relationship. No contact seems to be such an up and down affair, with one minute me thinking she was such a bad match for me and it would not of lasted and other times with me thinking maybe it would work in the future. In a way I hope that we do meet up in the future. I don't think that we met each other at the right time unfortunately and she wasn't really ready for a relationship. It's for that reason why we may have split, certainly the reason that she gave at the time. Hope is a bad thing to live with though isn't it? It stops you from moving on. Kill hope and its easier to get on, I just find it difficult to do. Also someone brought something interesting to my attention when they said "it's her loss". It got me thinking yeah it is her loss and actually im a damn good catch. I'm 6"3, Blond, blue eyes, handsome, sporty build. Im intelligent with a degree, funny, kind, sociable, caring, loving, good with kids. Decent job but improving this as we speak, great future prospects. Then I thought about her, She was pretty with makeup and had breast augmentation before I met her, which gave her more confidence. Yeah sure she is also a fairly nice person, but she has little prospects for the future, with a low paid job, no education and is from a country that some people don't respect here in the UK (Not me though, but she admitted that and must think it's a problem). All in all I've just found it hard to understand why she did not want to be with me, I'm a dam good catch and we had lot's of fun together, making it hard for me to work out what went wrong. I'm living with some hope that maybe we could meet up in the future, when she's got her partying out of her system and when I am in a stronger place in my life. I'm not sure if those things ever happen and whether living with this kinda hope is a bad thing. All i can do now is improve aspects of my life (6-pack conquest, better job, making some new female friends) and just get on with it. Is it ever right to live with this kinda hope? If not should it be suppressed and how do you do this? Thanks for reading, I feel i have gotten a lot of my chest now 1
Satu Posted April 4, 2016 Posted April 4, 2016 (edited) I'm very much a 'live in the present' person. I think it's OK to give some thought to the past and the future, but not too much, and not to the extent where it detracts from the present. The present is where we are, and the only place where can influence events, and make choices. Someone once asked me if that means I have no goals. My answer was that my goal is to feel good now, here, where we are. And so it is. Take care. Edited April 4, 2016 by Satu 2
Author tim_90 Posted April 4, 2016 Author Posted April 4, 2016 Well said my friend. Sometimes i get diverted off course by things such as this but living in the present is all we can do. The future does however plague my thoughts from time to time, I'm sure when I meet someone new when i'm ready then all this will be forgotten 1
Satu Posted April 4, 2016 Posted April 4, 2016 Well said my friend. Sometimes i get diverted off course by things such as this but living in the present is all we can do. The future does however plague my thoughts from time to time, I'm sure when I meet someone new when i'm ready then all this will be forgotten Probably not forgotten, but placed in perspective, and you completely at peace with it. Take care.
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