How should I approach this?

[you_can_not_see_me]

I have meet a girl at my college and I feel like there may be some attraction between us. Problem is we are part of group therapy (yes that's how we meet) and I m not quite sure how to go about making a move.

 

The group isn't for people with serious issue though, its just a free (or rather tuition payed) group meant to give students a setting to discuss stuff that's troubling them. That said I worried it might come off weird if I try to hit on her given the setting.

 

 

So how would you approach this situation?

[TXGuy]

This probably isn't what you want to hear, but I'd advise against trying to date someone from your group therapy. If it doesn't work out (and it usually doesn't), then you, her or both might be less comfortable in therapy. Assuming that the therapy is something you or her finds helpful, you might not want to jeopardize it.

 

You are in college, there are hundreds of other women you could date. Try some of them.

[you_can_not_see_me]

This probably isn't what you want to hear, but I'd advise against trying to date someone from your group therapy. If it doesn't work out (and it usually doesn't), then you, her or both might be less comfortable in therapy. Assuming that the therapy is something you or her finds helpful, you might not want to jeopardize it.

 

You are in college, there are hundreds of other women you could date. Try some of them.

Yes that's a real possibility I ve considered. But honestly I m willing to risk it. The group is interesting and all but the possibility of meeting a girl I like is more important for me than continuing to attend this group. I can do without the group if I have to.

 

So yeah I ve decided to go ahead, but I d like some advice on the approach.

Edited April 4, 2016 by you_can_not_see_me

[TXGuy]

I would the possibility of meeting a girl I like is more important for me that continuing to attend this group. I can do without the group if I have to.

 

Are you sure she can?

[you_can_not_see_me]

Are you sure she can?

What do you mean?

if she would also be ok with leaving the group?

 

She wouldn't need to, I would leave the group.

[you_can_not_see_me]

Apparently the girl has decided to leave the group. If you are wondering, its not because of me. The group is generally updated on who may be leaving the group and we were told by the group facilitator that she was going to leave the group.

 

 

On one hand now it won't be a problem for the group if I ask her out but on the other hand my only option now is to ask her out via email.

 

So what do you think should I go ahead and email her? what should I say in the email?