Vincenator Posted April 4, 2016 Posted April 4, 2016 (edited) So me and my ex were together for a year and a half until we broke up in January this year, because she lost interest. This was really sudden to me and hurt me really bad, but I stuck with NC. About 2 months later, I decided to reinitiate contact just to see how she was feeling. In these two months, she never reached out to me, and I never reached out to her. When I did finally reinitiate contact, I didn't talk about our relationship and we just caught up with what has happened in the past 2 months. We ended up talking 2 or 3 times in about 3 weeks, and were really friendly with each other. We talked about school, family, etc, and nothing about our past relationship. She sounded happy to hear from me again. Breaking NC didn't really make me feel bad. However, a week after a friendly conversation, she decided to delete me from facebook (which I used to message her). This was really random especially since I didn't really do anything to provoke her. I asked her why, and she just said she needed space. I asked if I bothered her and she said I don't bother her, but she just needs space. So, I just left it at that to respect her wishes. This was kinda unusual to me since she broke up with me and completely destroyed me at that moment, and was insisting so hard that we remain friends, which I refused. When I do decide to become friendly again, she needs space. A week after that, mutual friends of ours (they're closer to her though) started unadding me on facebook. I'm just guessing she's been talking to them about me, but I really don't think I did anything wrong, so I'm just wondering why all the aggression to me all of a sudden. I treated her amazing when we were together, never argued and rarely disagreed. However, I did get kind of clingy before the breakup and during the breakup. Also, there is no other guy in the picture. She told me during the breakup that she isn't ready to date and probably won't be until she finishes school. Just curious about all this and what you guys think of it, but for now I think it's better if I just go back to NC. Right now, I'm feeling a lot better compared to the first few weeks after the breakup. I've been doing everything right (eating properly, working out, going out with friends), and I haven't felt this good about myself in a while. But I still think about her everyday... It's getting better everyday and I don't think breaking NC really held me back. Edited April 4, 2016 by Vincenator
ExpatInItaly Posted April 4, 2016 Posted April 4, 2016 I also think she's met someone, despite what you believe. (Most dumpers say they're not ready for dating, by the way. It doesn't mean they won't actually do it) She doesn't want you potentially showing up on her FB and him seeing that. That was my first guess, as I have unfriended an ex for the same reason. I knew - sooner or later - he'd start posting on my public timeline and I didn't want to arouse unnecessary suspicions with my new guy. A couple months have passed since your split, so it't not out of the realm of possibility that she is dating again. Also, you say you were clingy leading up to the break-up; perhaps she is remembering that and doesn't want a repeat. How bad was it, exactly? Yes, go back to No Contact. The motivations for her behaviour aren't terribly important, but the bottom line is: she still doesn't really want to be in touch. You tried. That's all you could have done. Time to pick up NC where you left off, and continue moving on. 1
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