what456 Posted June 16, 2005 Posted June 16, 2005 is sex important in a relationship? what about oral sex?
J dub Posted June 16, 2005 Posted June 16, 2005 Once the gate is open, so to speak, I think it is almost essential in a relationship because men bond over sex & with sex comes emotions. Women are opposite. With emotions comes sex. Oral I'm not so sure about - its essential for me
Kandy Posted June 16, 2005 Posted June 16, 2005 What~ Honestly, if you have a great relationship, and you truely love the person, sex shouldn't be a "Must" in the relationship. BUT If you both decide that you want that together, you should. If I were you though, I would first wait until the relationship is good and stable, to make sure that it is based on more than just sex. Like I said, this is just my opinion...Hope it helps
Mz. Pixie Posted June 16, 2005 Posted June 16, 2005 It depends on the person. Example- in my marriage, sex wasn't important. I wasn't having orgasms with my then husband so I didn't really care that much about sex. Plus, we weren't connecting emotionally. Now in my relationship with my fiance'- sex is huge! I think generally it is more important to men than women- but it's important to women too! I think I'm enjoying it more on so many different levels now. Lack of oral sex is a deal breaker for me. I love it, giving and receiving.
TUDOR Posted June 16, 2005 Posted June 16, 2005 Sex in a relationship is about as important as having air to breath. With out it your relationship dies just as you would with out any air to breath. Oral sex, well your relationship can survive with out it but you don't want to survive a relationship, you should be living it! Oral sex is part of living it to its fullest.
Author what456 Posted June 16, 2005 Author Posted June 16, 2005 So far, from reading my posts most people are saying that sex is important. what if i don't want to have sex or even oral sex? would guys still want to be with me...
JPMorgan Posted June 16, 2005 Posted June 16, 2005 Originally posted by what456 So far, from reading my posts most people are saying that sex is important. what if i don't want to have sex or even oral sex? would guys still want to be with me... Probably not for long! However, the guys that do stay with you, you can be pretty sure they care about/love you for YOU and not just for sex. If they leave because you won't have sex with them condiser yourself lucky---you avoided getting your feelings hurt later down the road. If you have boundaries then they must respect them. Now, they'll probably keep trying to pursuade you otherwise! but stick to your guns and don't let anyone pressure you into doing something you are not ready for or do not want.
billybadass36 Posted June 16, 2005 Posted June 16, 2005 I can't see myself or any guys that I run with sticking around in a relationship where sex wasn't on the table, and frankly, I don't know of many women that would tolerate not having sex or some sexual activity in a committed relationship. Physical intimacy goes hand in hand with emotional intimacy for both sides of the relationship, IMO. If you're younger than say 20-ish, then the above doesn't count. Likewise if you're a virgin and you're all nervous about sex and stuff.
Pocky Posted June 16, 2005 Posted June 16, 2005 My husband and I have very little sex - about once every two weeks. I'd like it to be more, but we both have other priorities that we want to do. We're quite affectionate compared to other people and I often wonder if this is why sex isn't as important to us as other couples. We don't use sex as a way to bond and share intimacy - we do this on a regular basis in our daily contact with each other. As we grow older sex becomes less important as it was when we were younger and just starting our relationship.
Mz. Pixie Posted June 16, 2005 Posted June 16, 2005 There is a difference between being a virgin and wanting to wait to have sex than never wanting to ever have sex. If you think you NEVER want to have sex ever you may want to investigate why.
orta Posted June 17, 2005 Posted June 17, 2005 My girlfriend and I took things slow for four months. We did touch one another, and moved on to oral sex after two months. Sex didn't happen until just after four months. She was a virgin and I wanted to respect that. Sex is important to me in a relationship, but it is something that I can wait for. If I love and respect someone, I am going to love and respect their personal boundaries.
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