SecretFlower11 Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 So there´s this guy in my neighborhood and we´ve met a few times on the street and i think he's really handsome. I am normally a bit shy but i even found the courage to ask him after the time ( to get comfortable to speak with him). Then i haven´t seen him for a while. But yesterday when he walked past me something strange happened. He was walking in my direction and when he was far away he was looking straight ahead but as soon as he was so close that he could have actually looked in my face he looked down and was scratching his cheek the whole time. Like i would give him an itch or something. But when he was almost past me he looked up and peered over to me. Did i do something wrong when i was asking for the time or should i have just left it? I am confused why he reacted that way. Help
preraph Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 I don't know. Because we don't know what kind of guy he is. But if he's really good looking, he's probably used to female attention. And my feeling is that since you talked to him first, even if he was shy, if he was interested, he surely would have smiled and said hi passing you on the street. Well, see what happens next time.
LydiaLong Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 Did you look like you were about to pounce on him? He may not have wanted a conversation and you may have looked like you were about to delay his walk.
Author SecretFlower11 Posted April 3, 2016 Author Posted April 3, 2016 No i was just normally walking past him. I didn´t say anything.
jcromp Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 I think you're reading way too much into a single instance. The next time you see him, smile and say hello. If he's still acting weird, then maybe he's just not interested or he has a wife/girlfriend. Either way, you can't base anything off of this single thing. 4
basil67 Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 Perhaps his skin was itchy. Seriously, it's highly unlikely that his scratching had anything to do with you.
Author SecretFlower11 Posted May 9, 2016 Author Posted May 9, 2016 There´s this guy I really like. We re living in the same neighbourhood and I asked him for the time once but otherwise we´re complete strangers. I am moving next week but I´d love to get his number before that. I am shy and I have no idea how to ask him for his number. The fact that I don t know how he´ll react scares me probably. I just want to go to him and ask but how do i start? I just can´t go up to him and say "hey give me your number" ... Help...
Fruitee Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 Hey n.n. i am moving and would like to get your number so we could keep in touch. If he says no whats the problem? You moving anyway and dont need to see him again. So you can only win.
scooby-philly Posted May 10, 2016 Posted May 10, 2016 I agree with the first poster to a certain extant. But she's made it clear that she's never really talked with him. So, in her mind (as it might be in others) she doesn't have a bridge to connect her to him. Two things: 1. first off - how close is this neighbor (physical proximity) - around the corner - same block, same block different side, down the street, a few blocks away? 2. Based on the answer to #1 -if you have a friend right next door you could swing by the friends' place and see if you can see him - maybe tell them ahead of time so you can stay at their place or maybe they'll know his schedule. If you don't have that and he's far do you know a bar, coffee shop, etc he goes to? Maybe be a bit stalkerish (but not a real stalker). If he's near enough maybe you just go by and say hey - seen you around a lot in the hood, thought you were cute, wanted to give you my number since I'm moving. Simple. Or, take a photo, leave your number & note on it and leave it in his mailbox if your really scared. Guys don't mind straightforward woman. (read non-slutty ones)
smudge21 Posted May 10, 2016 Posted May 10, 2016 Ever thought he could be thinking the exact same thing? Could quite easily be a case of two people wanting to get to know each other but both being very shy and unsure. Basically one of you may have to step up and as he's not here, it'll have to be you. Like you say, you're moving soon so if the outcome is negative it won't matter. However, as I said in another thread (a guy wanting to ask out a waitress) most people feel flattered to know someone else likes them. Even if nothing comes of it, it's still a great ego boost to be approached like that, so I doubt very much he'd be put off by it. Also, you have to decide which is worse - the tiny bit of embarrassment when you speak to him and the possibility of him being negative... OR.. the feeling of regret when you've moved away and you look back and wish that you'd taken a chance. What have you to lose?
Cherryz Posted May 10, 2016 Posted May 10, 2016 Tell him you moving and would like to keep in touch. That way you leave it open to him to show if he interested. And if he is he would start talking about phone number or how you guys can keep in touch. Or the conversation will go that direction lol. If he say no. then tell him no problem. was nice meeting you, good luck and walk away. In a relaxed way.
Cherryz Posted May 10, 2016 Posted May 10, 2016 ps: have a conversation first to know if he single!!!!!!! you dont want to be texting other peoples boyfriend or asking them for numbers .
Author SecretFlower11 Posted May 23, 2016 Author Posted May 23, 2016 Hey i am moving soon and like to ask this guy i like after his number before i never see him again. can i say it like this? : Hey, this sounds maybe a bit straight forward but i find you very attractive and i am moving soon, so i was wondering if i could get your number? Is that good or do you know what else i could say? (ps we are strangers and i only know him from passing by)
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