NYC-BigKat Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 (edited) Yup that's what my coworker says yesterday at work at lunch. He just bought a 2014 lancer in February & says that lots of girls have been checking him out a lot & his confidence is up & when he takes pics of his car on Facebook he is getting good feedback from girls & stuff. I told him maybe these girls are all gold diggers or something & he says it doesn't really matter 'cause guys still pay any way with them . I don't want any gold diggers & stuff but I do want to get a car now. I do have a drivers license & not much practice so getting a car would be good practice & more independence & I guess a better chance at attracting girls so I wont look like a loser sitting on the bus all the time. I, uh, don't want anything fancy or pricey just something small like a 2015 mirage or versa to get around & to feel better about my life u know. I want to know by u if getting a car has made things better in general dating? Sorry for the misspelling up top. Edited April 3, 2016 by NYC-BigKat error
Ruby Slippers Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 My ex who drove a powerful, sporty car said a guy friend of his called his car a "pussy magnet". When I looked shocked, he laughed and said, "Men talk like that." The thing is, he was right. In general, women are attracted to material wealth of all kinds. We're driven by our nature to favor men who can provide for us and our potential babies. Now, whether you can develop something serious with any of them is another question. But yes - a nice car, clothes, home, and other material things will attract more women, in general.
Toodaloo Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 He just bought a 2014 lancer in February & says that lots of girls have been checking him out a lot & his confidence is up If his confidence is up so he will be holding himself differently and girls will notice this. Yes gold diggers will notice the car but all he has done is get himself so wheels that make him feel proud of himself. He will be speaking with more confidence, holding himself up and with an air of worth. If you do something that makes you feel good and proud of yourself people will notice you too.
MidwestUSA Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 Hey Kat! Always good to see you post. Are in the heart of NYC? If so, you may want to weigh the practicality of a car. I'd imagine there are plenty of girls there who don't have cars either. How is parking? Would you drive it to work or still take the bus? I've only visited Manhatten, but I couldn't imagine trying to navigate around in a car. If you're looking to expand into outlying areas, then sure, it would help. Good luck!
Gaeta Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 Yes a car will help your dating life but not for the reasons you think. There is no lady out there wanting to drive their boyfriend around, and no lady that want to meet their boyfriend at the bus terminal. A car will give you independence! women like independence. Women also like being picked up, they like being driven. We want our man to drive us. It's masculine. 2
losangelena Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 I could personally give a s--- about the kind of car a guy drives. I'm with Midwest though—are you in NYC? You don't need a car! 2
Author NYC-BigKat Posted April 3, 2016 Author Posted April 3, 2016 If his confidence is up so he will be holding himself differently and girls will notice this. Yes gold diggers will notice the car but all he has done is get himself so wheels that make him feel proud of himself. He will be speaking with more confidence, holding himself up and with an air of worth. If you do something that makes you feel good and proud of yourself people will notice you too. Yea I want something to feel really really good about u know. At first it was me getting the drivers license finally & now its me wanting to get my own car & it doesn't have to be fancy but something kinda cute u know . I text one of the girls at work just now & she agrees that I need a car that's nice for me to get things going for myself & to feel more confident that I don't need to rely on others to get around the place & stuff & I do notice girls are always looking at guys when they get out of cars for some reason. I guess it makes them look stronger? 1
MidwestUSA Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 I'm with Midwest though—are you in NYC? You don't need a car! When I was there, I visited a couple I'd met in Jamaica on honeymoon. They were in a high rise overlooking Central Park. What they paid for a month's parking would cover four of my house payments. 1
Author NYC-BigKat Posted April 3, 2016 Author Posted April 3, 2016 Hey Kat! Always good to see you post. Are in the heart of NYC? If so, you may want to weigh the practicality of a car. I'd imagine there are plenty of girls there who don't have cars either. How is parking? Would you drive it to work or still take the bus? I've only visited Manhatten, but I couldn't imagine trying to navigate around in a car. If you're looking to expand into outlying areas, then sure, it would help. Good luck! Hey Midwest. Yea I wanna move around & the bus & trains really do suck a lot with bunches of people staring at me & standing in the way & so many nuts getting on now it does suck. I do need to get better at driving so getting a car would be helpful & I work in queens so I will drive it there & getting a little attention from girls does feel good. I hate to feel invisible just walking. 1
losangelena Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 Seriously. Parking is astronomical in NYC! I mean, one thing I'll say about L.A. is that the parking is plentiful and relatively cheap. Even so, I went two years without a car here and just recently got a new one. Cars are so overrated.
MidwestUSA Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 Hey Midwest. Yea I wanna move around & the bus & trains really do suck a lot with bunches of people staring at me & standing in the way & so many nuts getting on now it does suck. I do need to get better at driving so getting a car would be helpful & I work in queens so I will drive it there & getting a little attention from girls does feel good. I hate to feel invisible just walking. You do what makes you feel good. You got that job and are doing well, so go for it! If it turns out to be a pain, you can always resell it. 1
normal person Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 Yup that's what my coworker says yesterday at work at lunch. He just bought a 2014 lancer in February & says that lots of girls have been checking him out a lot & his confidence is up & when he takes pics of his car on Facebook he is getting good feedback from girls & stuff. If you're 16 years old, I understand the appeal. But if you're older than that, owning a car isn't going to change much. Lots of men own cars, it's not something exclusive or luxurious like a private jet. Owning a car makes you just like everyone else. And posting pictures of it on Facebook makes you seem dubiously self-aggrandizing. "Hey everyone! Check out this thing that I have that everyone else also has!" Placing so much weight on something so commonplace just makes people look stupid. I told him maybe these girls are all gold diggers or something & he says it doesn't really matter 'cause guys still pay any way with them . I don't want any gold diggers & stuff but I do want to get a car now. I do have a drivers license & not much practice so getting a car would be good practice & more independence & I guess a better chance at attracting girls so I wont look like a loser sitting on the bus all the time. Do people really think that owning a car implies that there's "gold" to be dug? As in, anyone who owns (or even leases) a car is rich and has money to lavish on everyone else? I can't even begin to tell you how misinformed that is. You even mentioned how you take the bus currently so I can't imagine you're rolling in cash. All of a sudden you get a car and you're worried about women trying to separate you from this magical wealth that just appeared in your bank account? None of this makes any sense. I, uh, don't want anything fancy or pricey just something small like a 2015 mirage or versa to get around & to feel better about my life u know. I want to know by u if getting a car has made things better in general dating? Sorry for the misspelling up top. Is it just me or does spending $12K on a car and another $4K annually to park in the city just to maybe "impress" some girls seem totally unreasonable? Any woman who's actually impressed by a man merely owning a car is not worth your time and certainly not your hard earned money. Not to mention you live in New York City. The one place in the country where owning a car is totally unnecessary and more of a problem than a convenience. I live in the city and I have two cars, I leave both back in the suburbs because there is absolutely no need to have one here. You can get to 80% of places by subway quicker and cheaper than you can by driving and then trying to find and pay for parking, on top of your monthly parking fees. Ask yourself if you really think it's worth the cost, or if the money would be better invested elsewhere. I can't think of one legitimate reason you would be better off for it. 1
normal person Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 Yea I want something to feel really really good about u know. At first it was me getting the drivers license finally & now its me wanting to get my own car & it doesn't have to be fancy but something kinda cute u know . I text one of the girls at work just now & she agrees that I need a car that's nice for me to get things going for myself & to feel more confident that I don't need to rely on others to get around the place & stuff & I do notice girls are always looking at guys when they get out of cars for some reason. I guess it makes them look stronger? Well if a girl at work agrees that you "need" a car for some reason, then by all means, that's good reason to spend thousands of dollars. "Someone said I should do something without any real valid explanation or consideration, I guess I should do said thing." You don't need others to get around even without a car. New York has an elaborate and expansive subway system. It takes you most places just fine, and there's no traffic. Hey Midwest. Yea I wanna move around & the bus & trains really do suck a lot with bunches of people staring at me & standing in the way & so many nuts getting on now it does suck. I do need to get better at driving so getting a car would be helpful & I work in queens so I will drive it there & getting a little attention from girls does feel good. I hate to feel invisible just walking. $12K for a car $4k annually to park so people don't stand in your way on the subway? Does that seem reasonable? What're people staring at you for? Even rich people take the subway. It's easier, and having a car in New York is a financial shot in the foot. Owning a car doesn't take you from invisible to visible. It will make little to no change in your "visibility," and even if it manages to, it's likely not worth the price you'll pay for it. You do not need a car in New York, it's a very, very bad decision. Whose opinion are you going to consider most? A guy who lives in the city and is well versed in the price and practicality of car ownership here, or someone else? 2
Ruby Slippers Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 Yes a car will help your dating life but not for the reasons you think. There is no lady out there wanting to drive their boyfriend around, and no lady that want to meet their boyfriend at the bus terminal. A car will give you independence! women like independence. Women also like being picked up, they like being driven. We want our man to drive us. It's masculine. And there is no lady who wants to pick the guy up in her car and then let him drive. Let's not pretend it has nothing to do with ownership of the material thing itself
Spikiera Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 A car will definitely help you attract women. Like some of the previous posters said, it shows independence, and also, it shows you are financially stable enough to afford one. If it is a above average car, it will boost up your chance with women even more. It doesn't mean that the girls are gold diggers, who doesn't prefer a more comfortable life? If you met two guys with the same personality, and one guy has a decent car while another bus around all the time, which guy are you going to choose?
Shining One Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 Some cars will attract some women, but you really need to stand out. I drive a fairly nice car (IS-F), but it doesn't bring the women flocking to my door. However, when I've driven a borrowed $150K+ car to various clubs, I had women throwing themselves at me.
katiegrl Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 Having a car while living in New York City is way more trouble than it's worth. I used to live there ...I know! Most people use public, I think this is expected. I mean the traffic ... then the parking! Pain in the butt! If you want a car to *say* you have a car, and you can afford the expense, then go for it. But guarantee you will hardly use it, unless you meet and date women who live in the suburbs ... if that is the case, then yeah you would need it.
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