seeingthisguy Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 I had the most amazing date with a new guy a couple of days ago. Went to his place, he cooked me dinner, we talked, had the most unreal makeout session...etc. In short, I'm totally seeing stars. That said - what's an appropriate amount of time to go by before I should hear from him again re: another date?
abby_tx Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 I had the most amazing date with a new guy a couple of days ago. Went to his place, he cooked me dinner, we talked, had the most unreal makeout session...etc. In short, I'm totally seeing stars. That said - what's an appropriate amount of time to go by before I should hear from him again re: another date? He should ask for a second date within a couple days of the first in my opinion. If an entire week goes on with no mention, I'd be worried.
d0nnivain Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 As much as I hate texting, conventional wisdom suggests that after a good date, you send him a thank you text. Many men need that green light to know it's OK to ask about the 2nd date. If you haven't done that, send one now. If you have, I'd give it a week at the farthest outside limit. If you haven't heard from him in 7 days, assume you never will & move on. You can take the bull by the horns & call him for another date, your treat, but it's unlikely that he's interested.
Author seeingthisguy Posted April 3, 2016 Author Posted April 3, 2016 As much as I hate texting, conventional wisdom suggests that after a good date, you send him a thank you text. Many men need that green light to know it's OK to ask about the 2nd date. If you haven't done that, send one now. If you have, I'd give it a week at the farthest outside limit. If you haven't heard from him in 7 days, assume you never will & move on. You can take the bull by the horns & call him for another date, your treat, but it's unlikely that he's interested. Ahh yes. Sent him a "thank you" text last night His response was "Of course! Thank you for the company "
Gaeta Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 Ahh yes. Sent him a "thank you" text last night His response was "Of course! Thank you for the company " I am not impressed by that answer of his. You had a home cook meal as 1st date at his place? and a make-out session? All of this makes me think he was hoping for sex and you won't hear from him again. If you do it won't be soon and it will be because he has nothing else. 'thank you for the company' is one cheap answer. I would expect an answer like he had a great time + ask your free time for next date. 4
losangelena Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 Gaeta and I are really on the same wavelength this morning. I agree. First date at his house? That screams "I want sex" to me. Especially since you haven't heard from him again. 2
d0nnivain Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 OP I agree with Gaeta. While his response was polite, reading between the lines, it says he doesn't want a 2nd date because he didn't get the sex he wanted on the 1st date. Even if you had sex with him on that 1st date, he still probably wouldn't have called. He wanted NSA sex. Moving forward in your dating life understand that when as man offers an evening in for an early date, he expects that much of that date will take place IN bed. 2
katiegrl Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 I had the most amazing date with a new guy a couple of days ago. Went to his place, he cooked me dinner, we talked, had the most unreal makeout session...etc. In short, I'm totally seeing stars. That said - what's an appropriate amount of time to go by before I should hear from him again re: another date? Did you text him afterwards thanking him for the date, cooking you dinner? If not, please do that.
losangelena Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 Did you text him afterwards thanking him for the date, cooking you dinner? If not, please do that. Post #4, Katie. His reply was "thanks for the company." Effing lame.
katiegrl Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 Post #4, Katie. His reply was "thanks for the company." Effing lame. Thanks I saw that after I posted. Yes I agree very lame. Agree with you and Gaeta! I would be insulted receiving a text like that .... Next! 1
Author seeingthisguy Posted April 3, 2016 Author Posted April 3, 2016 Thanks I saw that after I posted. Yes I agree very lame. Agree with you and Gaeta! I would be insulted receiving a text like that .... Next! I agree! Totally thought it was lame. I was like ..??? To clarify, it was technically our second date (our first date was a coffee date) - he seems like such a sweet, genuine guy though. The date at his place went incredibly well - but I'd be surprised if sex was all he was after. Doesn't seem like the type.
Author seeingthisguy Posted April 3, 2016 Author Posted April 3, 2016 Did you text him afterwards thanking him for the date, cooking you dinner? If not, please do that. I totally did!
losangelena Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 I've met similar guys—sometimes you just can't tell to look at them. However, we're just hypothesizing. Maybe he wasn't after sex, maybe he just wasn't feeling it, or feeling it "enough." I think that's partly why early dating is so fraught. It's so uncertain; you can have what you consider a "great" date with someone, even have a toe-curling make out sesh, only to never hear from the other person again. Maybe it's easier to just say, "oh, he only wanted sex" than to dig any deeper. It can be so disappointing. 2
Author seeingthisguy Posted April 3, 2016 Author Posted April 3, 2016 I've met similar guys—sometimes you just can't tell to look at them. However, we're just hypothesizing. Maybe he wasn't after sex, maybe he just wasn't feeling it, or feeling it "enough." I think that's partly why early dating is so fraught. It's so uncertain; you can have what you consider a "great" date with someone, even have a toe-curling make out sesh, only to never hear from the other person again. Maybe it's easier to just say, "oh, he only wanted sex" than to dig any deeper. It can be so disappointing. We've known eachother for about 8 months - were friends, and have always been attracted to eachother. Everything seemed great on the date; after we finished making out, he was like "I told myself i was going to take things slow, and now we're making out in my bed!" And we had a good laugh - but now I'm thinking maybe that response is him slowing down a bit?
katiegrl Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 I agree! Totally thought it was lame. I was like ..??? To clarify, it was technically our second date (our first date was a coffee date) - he seems like such a sweet, genuine guy though. The date at his place went incredibly well - but I'd be surprised if sex was all he was after. Doesn't seem like the type. How do you know he's not the type? You have had two dates.
Author seeingthisguy Posted April 3, 2016 Author Posted April 3, 2016 How do you know he's not the type? You have had two dates. Lol see above response - we've been friends for almost a year - but you're right. Maybe he is.
Mrin Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 I agree in the text - bad style. But he also might just be a bad texter. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt and see if he asks for another by Wednesday night. 1
Author seeingthisguy Posted April 3, 2016 Author Posted April 3, 2016 I agree in the text - bad style. But he also might just be a bad texter. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt and see if he asks for another by Wednesday night. Agree - I'll report back haha thanks for this!
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