flamingo_legs Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 (edited) Hi! My dumper ex-boyfriend from 2 1/2 months ago is sending me photos of him shirtless, and then photos of his new outfits, signing the emails with a double X at the end. What's this behavior for? Does he simply think he looks good and wants to show off because he misses the admiration? I'm not really complaining, because I miss him like crazy and he's extremely good looking. But it doesn't seem fair that I, that I presume me, the dumpee might seem pathetic by sending him photos of my new lingere ... Edited April 3, 2016 by flamingo_legs duplicate
TaraMaiden2 Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 Hi! My dumper ex-boyfriend from 2 1/2 months ago is sending me photos of him shirtless, and then photos of his new outfits, signing the emails with a double X at the end. What's this behavior for? Does he simply think he looks good and wants to show off because he misses the admiration? I'm not really complaining, because I miss him like crazy and he's extremely good looking. But it doesn't seem fair that I, that I presume me, the dumpee might seem pathetic by sending him photos of my new lingere ... Easy remedy. Really easy. Easy-peasy. Block him completely, everywhere. On your 'phone, on Fb, on your emails. That's what NC is. Sorted. NEXT!!
Author flamingo_legs Posted April 3, 2016 Author Posted April 3, 2016 Yes i think that would be the next step, except we're not doing NC at the moment, and it would be random for me to do that. In fact we've been skyping about every week. He's visiting the country the end of April, and if I did need to do no contact, after that's is when it would start. But yeah I am feeling guilty about not being no-contact... since that seems to be the default way to go.
TaraMaiden2 Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 I posted in your other thread. This is a disaster in the making. Horrendous. you absolutely HAVE to go No Contact. Who the hell cares if it's random!? It's for your benefit, not his!! HE dumped YOU - remember??? 1
Author flamingo_legs Posted April 3, 2016 Author Posted April 3, 2016 I posted in your other thread. This is a disaster in the making. Horrendous. you absolutely HAVE to go No Contact. Who the hell cares if it's random!? It's for your benefit, not his!! HE dumped YOU - remember??? Thanks Taramaiden, It's a hard truth to digest right now that it's over. I have been realizing this since about 10 days ago so i'm going through a mental process. Just replied to the other thread.
RocketQueen Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 Yes i think that would be the next step, except we're not doing NC at the moment, and it would be random for me to do that. In fact we've been skyping about every week. He's visiting the country the end of April, and if I did need to do no contact, after that's is when it would start. But yeah I am feeling guilty about not being no-contact... since that seems to be the default way to go. I would recommend going n/c before the end of the month, it may well be that this continuation of contact is purely BECAUSE he's visiting at the end of the month and was hoping for some company, if it is for any other reason and he still has feelings he will find a way of letting you know. Take care xxx
Author flamingo_legs Posted April 3, 2016 Author Posted April 3, 2016 I would recommend going n/c before the end of the month, it may well be that this continuation of contact is purely BECAUSE he's visiting at the end of the month and was hoping for some company, if it is for any other reason and he still has feelings he will find a way of letting you know. Take care xxx Hi RocketQueen, the visit is because he has to ship something important from New Zealand over to the USA. So yeah I would be wondering more about him if he didn't have a solid reason like that. He still will be visiting his friends, though and we have the same friends, so I will definitely be seeing him at some point anyway. So that's why I'm conflicted about going NC, because I will definitely be seeing him. It would be different if I wasn't. It's actually been more stressful than if I wasn't seeing him, because obviously my mind is thinking of the conversations I could have with him.
TaraMaiden2 Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 Thanks Taramaiden, It's a hard truth to digest right now that it's over. I have been realizing this since about 10 days ago so i'm going through a mental process. Just replied to the other thread. I'll stick with the other thread, otherwise we'll both get head-spin!!
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