lino Posted April 5, 2016 Posted April 5, 2016 I disagree with much here. In theory money is not important, however the reality is somewhat different. Ask yourself this, have you ever come across a guy who has money who cannot get a date? Slightly different way of looking at it but without question material assets do impress most impressionable ladies of a certain age, its not the be all but I do believe it can get a guy a foot in the door when it comes to dating. OLD is already so superficial to begin with. It all forms part of the fact I don't believe many people like people for intangible things. The tangibles seem to matter more so material wealth is going to be important. Well said. Also, how many people know a couple where the woman out earns the man? I can count them on zero fingers.
Els Posted April 5, 2016 Posted April 5, 2016 I've never done OLD, but for relationships in general I would say it's not a good idea. Do talk about your career, but don't talk about money. Personally I would find it extremely crass and off-putting if a guy talked a lot about how much money he has - and I'm saying this as someone who was brought up in a culture where women picking a guy based on money was considered quite socially acceptable. I can only imagine how much worse women from other cultures would perceive it. 1
No_Go Posted April 5, 2016 Posted April 5, 2016 I have at least 3 good-earning friends that have house-husbands (now upgraded to SAHDs). So it happens. A lot. Well said. Also, how many people know a couple where the woman out earns the man? I can count them on zero fingers.
Toodaloo Posted April 5, 2016 Posted April 5, 2016 A good steady income and reliability are what matters most. This should not be flaunted regardless of how much or little it is. That sort of behavior is just crass. In my experience people who are "new" money and flaunt it like that are just vulgar personalities anyway so it is a big turn off. Oh and Lino... Most of the wives and girlfriends of the chaps in my morning work out earn their partners... Its not unusual these days... Two of the men at my afternoon job, their wives out earn them despite all being paid well in relation to the work they do... I am also meeting more and more men who do not want to work and who want the woman to support them... as well as carry on with "wifey" duties such as keep the house etc... It is very much going towards women setting up house etc and men moving in with them than the other way round. I am guessing of the couples I know who have settled down in last 5 years I am guessing that around 80% of them the woman earnt/ earns more, had set up house on her own while he was living with parents/ friends... 1
Els Posted April 5, 2016 Posted April 5, 2016 Well said. Also, how many people know a couple where the woman out earns the man? I can count them on zero fingers. I know a few, even among those who live in Asia where women are still economically disadvantaged. The fact that you don't know any in Melbourne, Australia says a lot more about your chosen social circle than it does about women.
No_Go Posted April 5, 2016 Posted April 5, 2016 I am also meeting more and more men who do not want to work and who want the woman to support them... - I've personally dated 2 of those, now on the 3rd one. These guys indeed expect a good 'woman' in the house that submits to them, regardless of the fact that she moms them and foots (most of) the bills. It's sad. A good steady income and reliability are what matters most. This should not be flaunted regardless of how much or little it is. That sort of behavior is just crass. In my experience people who are "new" money and flaunt it like that are just vulgar personalities anyway so it is a big turn off. Oh and Lino... Most of the wives and girlfriends of the chaps in my morning work out earn their partners... Its not unusual these days... Two of the men at my afternoon job, their wives out earn them despite all being paid well in relation to the work they do... I am also meeting more and more men who do not want to work and who want the woman to support them... as well as carry on with "wifey" duties such as keep the house etc... It is very much going towards women setting up house etc and men moving in with them than the other way round. I am guessing of the couples I know who have settled down in last 5 years I am guessing that around 80% of them the woman earnt/ earns more, had set up house on her own while he was living with parents/ friends...
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