Kisa503 Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for the past 7 months. He's an amazing man who completely swept me off my feet in beginning. My boyfriend was the sweet and compassionate type who made sure everyone knew I was his, he was proud to have me as his girlfriend. However, as the New Year came and went he had begun to be distant and I suspected cheating as I had been cheated on before. Later he did admit to flirting with other women and he even opened up to me about sleeping with someone before we were together. He had said he felt horrible and that I deserved the world, he admitted that things needed to change. Since then he has changed but only for a few weeks at a time. We recently took a break because he had said I'm "too perfect and deserve better" only to get back together a week later. I've been very patient and loving because I do absolutely adore this man. My boyfriend does say he loves me and he does bring up the future.. but what can I do to make him realize how emotionally difficult his behavior is for me? Is he just too immature to be in a relationship? Could he be talking to other women still?
smackie9 Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Sorry but actions speak louder than words. "We recently took a break because he had said I'm "too perfect and deserve better" only to get back together a week later". Ya because he wanted to hook up with someone, was done and came back, that's my take on it. IMO if someone is emotionally messing you up, then they are not being honest with you. I know love can make your turn a blind eye but, if it doesn't feel right, then it's not. I don't think this is right....I suspect you feel the same way and yo are looking for conformation...you got my vote on that.
basil67 Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Kisa, those first few months when all was good happened during the 'honeymoon period' when everyone is on their best behaviour. But now you're seeing the real him. You've spoken with him about the issues but nothing has changed long term. All you can do now is either accept it or move on. 2
Author Kisa503 Posted April 3, 2016 Author Posted April 3, 2016 Thank you both! I think I'm just waiting for him to be the man he doesn't want to be to me anymore. I appreciate the input and he's probably right, I do deserve better.
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