nymphetgrown Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 A friend of mine, we'll call her Dolly, dropped me some months back. When I say "dropped", I mean "defriended and blocked on Facebook after a really petty squabble" -- this was over whether one of her ~entrepreneur~ friends was scamming. Apparently it's rude to ask questions, especially when your friend is caught up in, like, five MLMs at once and you keep getting hit up for this product and that. (Which I didn't buy. Expensive stuff I can't actually use? I'm just as broke as you and I'm NOT on SSDI...) Out of the blue, she's decided that she wants my friendship back. She sent me a friend request. Her husband hinted that I should friend her. I finally asked, "Exactly what is going on here? Y'all know what happened." Did you know that if you support your unemployed, also disabled, also not on SSDI neighbor whose volunteering got your family a new roof, you're a hypocrite if you say no to anyone else? I do now! And I said, "Look, I went to a $10 demo night, it was cool, but when I knew the product was wrong for me, I didn't buy in." The response was "She doesn't want to throw away six years of friendship." The thing is that we were couple-friends, when I was still with my ex and being all poly. We didn't really share much else. I leave the house mostly for the friends I've made around my hobby and the things we do together, people who have stood by me and actually encouraged me to be my best self (ugh, how Oprah, but it's true). I could try to get this lady back into the same hobby, but to be honest, I'm not sure whether she'd fit in. My people within the group are highly service-oriented, very practical, and have little tolerance for the kind of drama I know Dolly can bring. It costs me nothing to friend her on Facebook; on the other hand, I suspect she would want more than that. Do I continue NC or get her hopes up? So confused.
preraph Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Jeez, if there's no one else in the middle and you don't have to run into her all the time (or him) I believe I'd ghost on her. I don't like people coming to me with scams and trying to con me out of money, and that sounds like her, for sure. You've mad her mad now, so what's to stop her from just stealing your stuff or something like that. You might just tell her husband, Hey, I feel our issue was resolved, and I don't want to have to get involved again and kick up the dust all over again.
basil67 Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 You could always accept the friend request on condition that you get no more invitations to buy products from her friend. If she won't accept this condition, then don't be her friend.
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