Ano2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 A week ago the guy I like texted late in the evening while being drunk that I'm sooo cute with a smiley with hearts. I'm used to being told by guys that I'm gorgeous, hot or beautiful. He never says it really, only texted once hello, beautiful or says ' you obviously don't look so bad' . If he would really think that I'm an attractive woman wouldn't he say that I'm gorgeous or so? I don't want him to see me as his cute little friend. Does he like me, like really like me or am I just A cutie he would like to have sex with and nothing more? Clear me up, guys!
d0nnivain Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Perhaps he has a small vocabulary. While drunk it's more likely that he could only spell cute & not gorgeous or beautiful. 4
MidwestUSA Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Perhaps he has a small vocabulary. While drunk it's more likely that he could only spell cute & not gorgeous or beautiful. I hope it wasn't an autocorrect from another four letter word that begins with C!
katiegrl Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 A week ago the guy I like texted late in the evening while being drunk that I'm sooo cute with a smiley with hearts. I'm used to being told by guys that I'm gorgeous, hot or beautiful. He never says it really, only texted once hello, beautiful or says ' you obviously don't look so bad' . If he would really think that I'm an attractive woman wouldn't he say that I'm gorgeous or so? I don't want him to see me as his cute little friend. Does he like me, like really like me or am I just A cutie he would like to have sex with and nothing more? Clear me up, guys! Well, I think it's pretty simple, obviously HE doesn't think you are "gorgeous* or *beautiful* but merely *cute*. So if you need a guy who thinks you are gorgeous and beautiful, then dump him. You can't be every man's cup of tea. 1
katiegrl Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Wondering did you meet him on line? If so, you might want to consider putting on your profile "only looking for guys who find me gorgeous and beautiful. If you only find me cute, don't bother responding." Good luck! 1
brothers343 Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 All eyes see different. What I call cute another might call gorgeous. Maybe you have heard to many times that your hot or gorgeous and here comes this guy that just thinks your cute. I know a woman that her character makes her ugly as sin but her husband thinks she's the most beautiful lady in the world. So there you go...If you understand what I'm saying. .
spriggan2 Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Cute hot pretty gorgeous beautiful are all interchangeable. Sexy too. Sometimes depending on context cute can be platonic...meaning adorable. Have a feeling that's not the case here though.
smackie9 Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 What's wrong with cute? I think it's more endearing with heartfelt feelings attached. 2
Author Ano2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Author Posted April 2, 2016 Oh god, I didn't mean at all that I AM gorgeous or hot or whatever. But if a guy is interested in a woman they do tend to tell you that they find you attractive, right? So if they call you beautiful ( and every women wants to be desired) you know that he finds you attractive. Not more and not less. I'm sorry if I offended anyone, not my intention
Author Ano2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Author Posted April 2, 2016 Wondering did you meet him on line? If so, you might want to consider putting on your profile "only looking for guys who find me gorgeous and beautiful. If you only find me cute, don't bother responding." Good luck! I don't mind being the cute girl! That is not the question! As I said it is a thing guys do when they like a woman, they give compliments. I just don't want him to play games. To tell me that I am cute because he is not really interested But keeping me on the hook is just mean. People get so sensitive when it is about beauty. I didn't mean anything offensive.
smackie9 Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 My impression of this is that he has been secretly crushin on you. It took alcohol, and some drunk texting to get him to put it out there. I think he is more honest in how he feels about you than those other guys say you are so hot/gorgeous. 3
Author Ano2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Author Posted April 2, 2016 My impression of this is that he has been secretly crushin on you. It took alcohol, and some drunk texting to get him to put it out there. I think he is more honest in how he feels about you than those other guys say you are so hot/gorgeous. Oke, first of all thank you for reacting normal. Second of all, I hope you are right. But it could really be yes.
katiegrl Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 (edited) Oh god, I didn't mean at all that I AM gorgeous or hot or whatever. But if a guy is interested in a woman they do tend to tell you that they find you attractive, right? So if they call you beautiful ( and every women wants to be desired) you know that he finds you attractive. Not more and not less. I'm sorry if I offended anyone, not my intention You didn't offend me ... I consider myself to be very attractive too, and get told so often. I just don't need guys telling me how beautiful and gorgeous I am... I don't need that type of validation... as I am secure within myself. If a guy I was dating texted me "God you are so cute!" I would take it as a compliment and be extremely flattered! He means the whole of me is cute, my personality and looks. Combined. It's endearing and IMO a huge compliment.... and would mean more to me than being bombarded with you are beautiful and gorgeous all the time. Which only refers to my looks. It gets old. Edited April 2, 2016 by katiegrl 1
preraph Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 "Cute" is less threatening. "Cute" is harmless. "Cute" is approachable. And yes, he wants to do more than pat you on the head, but no, that doesn't mean he really likes you. I think if he really liked you he'd be more of a man making plans with you than a late-night drunk texting trying to hook up. 1
smackie9 Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Oke, first of all thank you for reacting normal. Second of all, I hope you are right. But it could really be yes. Think about it, a player type wouldn't really use the word cute, or drunk text with a smilie and hearts at 2am lol This guy is thinking about you for sure. 3
SammySammy Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 You didn't offend me ... I consider myself to be very attractive too, and get told so often. I just don't need guys telling me how beautiful and gorgeous I am... I don't need that type of validation... as I am secure within myself. If a guy I was dating texted me "God you are so cute!" I would take it as a compliment and be extremely flattered! He means the whole of me is cute, my personality and looks. Combined. It's endearing and IMO a huge compliment.... and would mean more to me than being bombarded with you are beautiful and gorgeous all the time. Which only refers to my looks. It gets old. That's the key. What word someone uses to describe us doesn't change the way we look. Whether they say we're gorgeous, beautiful, cute ... a'ight ... or just plain ugly, we look the same. The confidence and security about our looks comes from inside. What's truly important is how you feel about yourself and how he treats you. Not whether he used the right word to boost your ego. 2
Author Ano2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Author Posted April 2, 2016 "Cute" is less threatening. "Cute" is harmless. "Cute" is approachable. And yes, he wants to do more than pat you on the head, but no, that doesn't mean he really likes you. I think if he really liked you he'd be more of a man making plans with you than a late-night drunk texting trying to hook up. Indeed, that's why I am worried. I just like him so much. To be fair though, he lives 1200 kilometers away from me and we have a 4 th date planned next month ( we didn't even kiss yet)
Author Ano2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Author Posted April 2, 2016 That's the key. What word someone uses to describe us doesn't change the way we look. Whether they say we're gorgeous, beautiful, cute ... a'ight ... or just plain ugly, we look the same. The confidence and security about our looks comes from inside. What's truly important is how you feel about yourself and how he treats you. Not whether he used the right word to boost your ego. Totally true, but it's not about the ego. It is about if he is keeping me on the hook for sex. But thank you
Author Ano2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Author Posted April 2, 2016 Think about it, a player type wouldn't really use the word cute, or drunk text with a smilie and hearts at 2am lol This guy is thinking about you for sure. Haha yes, you are right... this made me feel better. Thank you
Grewd Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Last time I checked it's a compliment, one I tell my girlfriend often because she really is cute. I don't use sweet words if I'm not seriously interested, it's also probably the last thing I would expect to hear from a player. He likes you, cute is positive.
losangelena Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Would rather get a sincere compliment from a guy rather than an insincere "you're gorgeous" from some dude who just wants to get in my pants. Think about it ... 2
Imported Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Think about it, a player type wouldn't really use the word cute, or drunk text with a smilie and hearts at 2am lol This guy is thinking about you for sure. Would rather get a sincere compliment from a guy rather than an insincere "you're gorgeous" from some dude who just wants to get in my pants. Think about it ... I purposely "accidentally;) let on more than I intended" my attraction through words, actions or expressions. It's more sincere and works better. For the purpose of getting in your pants.
d0nnivain Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Indeed, that's why I am worried. I just like him so much. To be fair though, he lives 1200 kilometers away from me and we have a 4 th date planned next month ( we didn't even kiss yet) Totally true, but it's not about the ego. It is about if he is keeping me on the hook for sex. But thank you These 2 ideas do not go together. A man who only wanted to have sex with you would have had his tongue down your throat on the 1st date. He wouldn't deal with a 1200 km distance & no physical contact. He'd also be way more suave then to call you cute & use emojis in a text. Why are you so paranoid that he's using you? Why can't you accept that he called you cute because to him it's a genuine compliment? If you act like this around him you are going to push him away. Please do keep coming back here & freaking out on us. That is what LS is for but pull yourself together. Nothing is wrong here. Stop looking for problems where none exist because all you will do is create those problems. 3
Author Ano2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Author Posted April 2, 2016 These 2 ideas do not go together. A man who only wanted to have sex with you would have had his tongue down your throat on the 1st date. He wouldn't deal with a 1200 km distance & no physical contact. He'd also be way more suave then to call you cute & use emojis in a text. Why are you so paranoid that he's using you? Why can't you accept that he called you cute because to him it's a genuine compliment? If you act like this around him you are going to push him away. Please do keep coming back here & freaking out on us. That is what LS is for but pull yourself together. Nothing is wrong here. Stop looking for problems where none exist because all you will do is create those problems. You are right of course. He is just sending some mixed signals... So I am over analyzing everything way to much. Oh he doesn't come over just to see me, his whole family lives here. Some mixed signals are: insisting to see me for a coffee and then cancelling last minute (happend twice), not answering a text for a day or hours, but then again texting something sweet randomly or giving subtile compliments.
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