new chance

[dezuu]

hello all, thank you for your time for reading my thread, i am really confused in some things,

i am right now in a relationship with a girl that she loves me, i love her to the end, but i cannot have sex with her until we are married, i promissed this thing to her so i am going to keep my promise, but, i am here to ask you something, like a guy i am, 22 years old, i need your help, there is another girl who calls me for caffe, dinner, but everytime she is with her sister on the table, and i am with my friend, we talked tonight about how sex is in our lifes and i lie everytime, i really like this girl, and i am really confused how to get her in my bed. i am really sorry for bad english but here is the thing, i can see that she kinda likes me, and she wants sex with me, but she knows i am in a relationship and she wont do the first step, can you help me go through this? my Girlfriend does not know anything about this, if this is called cheating it doesnt matter because i need to have sex, i cant wait her till we get married. so help me get this second girl to date me. if you need further info i am here.

Thank you.

[preraph]

Are you engaged to the girl? If so, you can't date other women. If you are not engaged, then you need to tell your girlfriend that you want to be free to date other women since it is a long wait for marriage.

[dezuu]

well, i know that, i am not engaged and we are like 3 months together, this is not my problem, i will break up if i can be with the other girl and, i am going to risk, thats what i need to try, the problem is that how to do the first step in the shortest ways, if i break up now with my girlfriend and if i dont date this girl i am lost, so i have to risk before i break off, so please any suggestion how to date this second girl,

[dezuu]

i forgot to tell that in my city, its hard to date a girl, because its a really really small city.

[stardust87]

The way I see it, if you cannot honor your promise to your girlfriend of waiting till marriage and now you're looking to have sex with another girl just to relieve this need, you should just break up with your girlfriend and pursue something (relationship or otherwise) with someone that you are compatible with. You're going to hurt your girlfriend if she find out that you're cheating and it's also a mess to go in a relationship with someone else that might not be strictly for sex only.

 

It might be hard to lose your girlfriend, but you have to choose -- in life, most of us can't have our cake and eat it too.

[dezuu]

well thank you for replies and answers, but i think you are missunderstanding me, my question here is not how to not hurt my girlfriend feelings, she knows we cant wait till marriage, but as i boy i am she knows i have to have sex, i will breakup with here once i date this girl. i know it hurts but the second girl is just like me, feels me, and i am more comfortable with her, but, the problem is i do not want to breakup before i date here, i just want to make sure with this girl how the things will go, i know its a cheating, and i am responsible for my mistakes. i just want to risk. the other problem is that the second girl she is not prepared for me, because she knows i have i girlfriend, i want to bypass this situation and date here. then i will break up with my girl friend.

so there is only one step i need help from you:

1. date the second girl, even that she knows i am in a relationship.

 

after this i am not cheating, i will breakup.

[preraph]

Being a small city, it is very important that you proceed in an honorable way. And that means you have to run the risk of breaking up with your girlfriend before trying to date this other woman. It's not fair to overlap. That will hurt her feelings more. If you tell her you feel you need to date other women, then it can be up to her whether she still wants to see you at all or not. The other woman is more likely to want to go out if she knows you are not exclusive with your girlfriend.

 

If you were a 30-year-old guy, it would be a different story, but you are only 22 and these are the years you should get to do some exploring. But please, just be honest with her about that. Don't betray her, at least.

[dezuu]

thank you for helping me, i will break up with her my relationship is in the end, everyone knows this, and no one is hurt, but in a while what should i do with this second girl, i know its hard to say but i really like her, what would be my first step to take with the second girl till i breakup.?

[preraph]

If she's really interested, she will wait. Most women would admire you for not cheating. If you cheat with the new lady, she will know you would do it to her too! So just stay in touch with her once in awhile, but take care of your business before asking her out. good luck.