hrtbrkn Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 (edited) So, seven years later I have been contacted on social media by a guy who had done a disappearing act on me after a brief summer romance while I was abroad. I was deeply hurt. Needless to say, I've moved on with my life. I am currently single. I won't recite all of the details but he told me that he is recently single. He encouraged me to come back and visit his country and said that he feels like he owes me an explanation for his disappearing act. It's now two days and I haven't responded because this all came out of seemingly nowhere. Any advice? Thanks! Edited April 1, 2016 by hrtbrkn
Satu Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 snip He encouraged me to come back and visit his country and said that he feels like he owes me an explanation for his disappearing act. It's now two days and I haven't responded because this all came out of seemingly nowhere. *Any advice? Thanks! Trust the gut feeling that is already telling you not to do it. Delete/Block. Take care. 4
Cinnamonstix Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 So, seven years later I have been contacted on social media by a guy who had done a disappearing act on me after a brief summer romance while I was abroad. I was younger and naive at the time and a few weeks after returning we talked about seeing each other again soon and I had bought a plane ticket for him to come visit me (since he was lacking funds at the time). When I never heard from him again I had to cancel the ticket. I was deeply hurt. Needless to say, I've moved on with my life. I am currently single. I won't recite all of the details but he told me that he is recently single. He encouraged me to come back and visit his country and said that he feels like he owes me an explanation for his disappearing act. It's now two days and I haven't responded because this all came out of seemingly nowhere. Any advice? Thanks! The title made me laugh. This guy has a lot of nerve. Not only did you do all the work seven years ago (by buying him a ticket), he now pops up and asks you to do it again (by coming to him) before even giving you an explanation. Someone would have to work VERY VERY hard for me to even give them the time of day if they did that to me. I would ignore him and move on. 3
Satu Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 If he sends you the money to go and visit him, spend it on spa days and champagne. 6
Zahara Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 What a tool. He wants you to travel all the way to his country so he can explain his disappearance 7 years ago?! Move on. He's just going down his line of women to see who's available to pay him some attention now that he is single. 4
kendahke Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 I guess you have to ask yourself "are you really interested in his explanation?" If the answer is no, then block him. If the answer is yes, then see where it leads. Only you know what that answer is for you. 1
RecentChange Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 . I was deeply hurt Tell him no thanks. If it was just a hot fling, I would day go have fun - but he gur you? Don't let this guy toy with your emotions any more. 1
preraph Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Sounds like he's had a very long dry spell....Unless there is something magical about this guy, I see no reason you'd want to reconnect.
katiegrl Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 (edited) He encouraged me to come back and visit his country and said that he feels like he owes me an explanation for his disappearing act. It's now two days and I haven't responded because this all came out of seemingly nowhere. Is there any particular reason why he can't come visit you in your country? He has an effin nerve to even ask that you spend the money, time and energy to visit HIM, after disappearing on you the way he did. He must think you're a real moron ... which you are not so my advice would be to text him back "gee, sounds swell but think I'll pass. Bye!" Then block him and delete. Edited April 2, 2016 by katiegrl 3
bluefeather Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 ...said that he feels like... And why are you giving a crap about his feelings? 1
Haydn Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 It will be a hell of an explanation.... `You see, the van broke down and then Johnny broke his arm and we had to take him to hospital. Then you would not believe what happened next..A freak tidal wave swept me out to sea and i ended up alone on a desert island. I survived mainly on what i could forage. A passing trawler picked me up and here i am! Oh and i couldn`t get a signal...` Ignore Ignore 2
Zippy2000 Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 HURT ME ONCE, SHAME ON YOU. HURT ME TWICE, SHAME ON ME. He`s revisiting his past to see if you`re still available. You don't need to revisit the past. He left you there..... and he left you behind. Why do you want to go back when intrinsically you've swapped the situation around and now you have LEFT him behind as you've moved on. The question is why are you asking for advice when you say you have moved on? 1
despgirl Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 So, seven years later I have been contacted on social media by a guy who had done a disappearing act on me after a brief summer romance while I was abroad. I was deeply hurt. Needless to say, I've moved on with my life. I am currently single. I won't recite all of the details but he told me that he is recently single. He encouraged me to come back and visit his country and said that he feels like he owes me an explanation for his disappearing act. It's now two days and I haven't responded because this all came out of seemingly nowhere. Any advice? Thanks! Because I am a curious person as to what lame excuses he would come up with, i would let him explain himself via email or on the phone. No need for you to travel all the way to his country though? But yeah, what a jerk move on his side and coming back 7 years later is just pathetic. 1
elaine567 Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Because I am a curious person as to what lame excuses he would come up with, i would let him explain himself via email or on the phone. No need for you to travel all the way to his country though? But yeah, what a jerk move on his side and coming back 7 years later is just pathetic. That is what I would do as well, find out what he has to say, but with no intention of going anywhere or picking anything up again 1
Leigh 87 Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 If he sends you the money to go and visit him, spend it on spa days and champagne. Great option.
Leigh 87 Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 When a guy did this to me..... he had the audacity to suggest that I fly over.... I told him to pay himself ... and he did:lmao: Look, I was single and did enjoy his company so I enjoyed the dinners he got me and the free air travel but these guys are never genuine. I knew what it was and I was happy for a fun fling. Don't expect more. And NEVER actually pay...... have some self respect.
ilovemefirst Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Wow 7 years! No, he doesnt deserve a response. If you did, well he would say wow, she wants me. He obviously is not someone you can rely on. I had a friend, who disappeared on 2 times. First time, his excuse was lame, but i cared about him..so i gave him another shot. Well a few months later, he did it again. I say first time a victim, second time a volunteer. Dont be a volunteer!
xpaperxcutx Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 Was he lost at sea? I can't imagine someone disappearing on you then popping out of nowhere with a good explanation.
brothers343 Posted April 3, 2016 Posted April 3, 2016 7 years later......I would take that as a compliment that he let a good thing go. Now smile to yourself and continue with the life you have. Good luck.
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