Genie74 Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 My man of over a years got some very odd shifty behaviour and id quite like some advice if anyones been through similar!everytime i ask to use his computer he has to run a scan/erase the history which i find odd as i already know he looks at porn...also the last 2 tablets of viagra have mysteriously gone missing+ive searched everywhere!i dont think hes properly cheated on me but i was wondering what other internet stuff would warrant taking viagra?
strow Posted February 23, 2016 Posted February 23, 2016 i was wondering what other internet stuff would warrant taking viagra? He can't get it up without viagra, right? So if he's jacking it to internet porn or chatting online with a video cam girl while jacking it, he'd need viagra for that. I suggest you simply ask him what happened to the last 2 pills. If he lies, well you've got problems.
Author Genie74 Posted February 24, 2016 Author Posted February 24, 2016 He says that hes "lost them" when i asked....how would i know he'd lied?really dont want to accuse him and look like a psycho gf..
Gaeta Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 really dont want to accuse him and look like a psycho gf.. I think it's a bit late to not look like a psycho gf, you are counting his viagra pills. When you find yourself counting your boyfriend's condoms or viagra pills you've got a serious trust issue and should not be in this relationship. 4
Larryville Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 When you find yourself counting your boyfriend's condoms or viagra pills you've got a serious trust issue and should not be in this relationship. While I have not been on this site long, I must admit I have learned quite a bit. But one thing I absolutely know pertaining to above statement if you are posting on this site “soliciting advice” because you believe something is a “problem” you are likely already leaning over the proverbial cliff. Not saying any hope is lost depending on someone’s current situation and not saying soliciting advice is bad or wrong, knowing your own personal issues or misery is NOT unique is somewhat comforting… However folks are not posting stuff here because all is cool and dandy and happy, happy joy, joy. Maybe I’m wrong but if you are posting here then more than likely… should not be in this relationship. He can't get it up without viagra, right? I work on a college campus, I absolutely know Viagra is not about just for “getting it up” anymore. 1
Saf17 Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 I work on a college campus, I absolutely know Viagra is not about just for “getting it up” anymore. What's it for then? Sorry
kendahke Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 My man of over a years got some very odd shifty behaviour and id quite like some advice if anyones been through similar!everytime i ask to use his computer he has to run a scan/erase the history which i find odd as i already know he looks at porn...also the last 2 tablets of viagra have mysteriously gone missing+ive searched everywhere!i dont think hes properly cheated on me but i was wondering what other internet stuff would warrant taking viagra? What's wrong with your computer? Why are you counting his viagra? That is more the issue here.
kendahke Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 He says that hes "lost them" when i asked....how would i know he'd lied?really dont want to accuse him and look like a psycho gf.. Too late. Yeah, if it's come to this, it's over except for the breaking up.
ontar Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 Next time he refills the rx, count the number of pills in the bottle and keep track of them.
kendahke Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 Next time he refills the rx, count the number of pills in the bottle and keep track of them. Or break up with him instead, especially since he wasn't having sex with you for 5 months and now he's got a script for viagra... 2
Larryville Posted February 24, 2016 Posted February 24, 2016 I work on a college campus, I absolutely know Viagra is not about just for “getting it up” anymore. What's it for then? Sorry SAF Dudes just want to "keep it up" for extended periods of time...
Author Genie74 Posted February 25, 2016 Author Posted February 25, 2016 I was staying over at his house so didnt have my computer with me...and they were the last two tablets..thats how i know they have gone..i knew id seen them in the drawer+now they have gone
Author Genie74 Posted April 1, 2016 Author Posted April 1, 2016 Hi any advice would be really helpful as im not sure im been paranoid!i've been with my bf for around 16 months and over the past few weeks and especially this week hes been throwing out what i think are little hints that hes losing interest!i only ever see him on weekends as we have a long distance relationship but his texts this week are short and to the point and he doesn't tell me how much hes looking forward to me anymore:(he doesnt tell me i'm gorgeous unless i tell him something similar anymore and hes stopped little things such as cooking special meals for me ...hes invited me as usual this weekend but i feel somethings up or im going to get dumped..just wondering if anyone has any advice?
Author Genie74 Posted April 1, 2016 Author Posted April 1, 2016 Ive just posted another thread about thinking my bfs losing interest and this is kinda linked...o.k my boyfriend has liked every single photo a female aquaintance of his has posted of herself on fb...he hasnt even like that many of his best friends!!im feeling really odd about it all..am i overthinking!?can i just say this female aquaintance has never once liked anything of his from what i can see!?
LydiaLong Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 I'd say your instincts are correct. He's losing interest. Perhaps you should find someone closer. 2
Gaeta Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 Life has its ups and downs and he may just be preoccupied by something. I think it's a bit too much of you to question your 16 months relationship just because he has not come forward with compliments in a couple of weeks. If he were losing interest he would skip seeing you. 1
Gaeta Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 It would have been very useful if you had posted those details in your other thread. Is this acquaintance living in same area as him? What is your boyfriend's status on FB, is it 'in a relationship'? 1
Author Genie74 Posted April 1, 2016 Author Posted April 1, 2016 Thanks..yeah i overthinking to the point of head explosion and i know you should'nt ask but he says hes not losing interest etc hes just had no sleep and had a bad week at work..but even in the past when hes been stressed hes still bothered with me more
Author Genie74 Posted April 1, 2016 Author Posted April 1, 2016 (edited) Yes itsays hes in a relationship+he does mention me quite a bit but recently he posted a love song to her wall...when asked about it he said it was her favourite song that they both liked..it just happened to be a love song...whats made it weirder is that shes not even acknowledged it or anything and yes she lives in the same city as him Edited April 1, 2016 by Genie74
Gaeta Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 Genie: You've been having quite a bit of worries with this boyfriend. His viagras are disappearing (how old is he? how old are you?) Now he's showing interest in a female acquaintance on FB. About the woman on FB, I think he is developing an interest in her and I think she is not liking anything on his wall because he is in a relationship and she has more sense of respect than he does. 1
Author Genie74 Posted April 1, 2016 Author Posted April 1, 2016 Is he showing an interest or could it just be innocent?i definitely dont think hes properly cheated on me..but cyber sex/chats another issue...i do really overthink and i wanted to know if its me with the problem
Gaeta Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 (edited) Is he showing an interest or could it just be innocent?i definitely dont think hes properly cheated on me..but cyber sex/chats another issue...i do really overthink and i wanted to know if its me with the problem How old are the both of you? Edited April 1, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator clarification~T
Gaeta Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 Both late 30s What kind of condition he has to need viagra in his late 30s? Also, you have been dating 16 months long distance, where is this relationship going? Any plans of you moving there or him moving where you are? 1
TaraMaiden2 Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 Hi any advice would be really helpful as im not sure im been paranoid!i've been with my bf for around 16 months and over the past few weeks and especially this week hes been throwing out what i think are little hints that hes losing interest!i only ever see him on weekends as we have a long distance relationship but his texts this week are short and to the point and he doesn't tell me how much hes looking forward to me anymore:(he doesnt tell me i'm gorgeous unless i tell him something similar anymore and hes stopped little things such as cooking special meals for me ...hes invited me as usual this weekend but i feel somethings up or im going to get dumped..just wondering if anyone has any advice? I think it may be a case of the honeymoon period being over. There was the wooing, romancing and the gloss of a new love. Now, you've become 'a couple'; he's used to you, and you've become a fixture. He's stopped with the romancing because he feels, as you're long-term partners, it's probably not necessary any more. I hate to break it to you, but this isn't uncommon. If he's not naturally, spontaneously repetitively or habitually romantic, then this won't get better, and in fact may very well deteriorate even more. I don't think he's necessarily preparing to dump you. He's 'settled into it'. I wouldn't go so far as to say he's taking you for granted in a callous way, but the effort factor has slipped, because there's no point to it. I mean, you're his GF now, right? I mean, if you're together, of course he loves you, it's obvious, isn't it? Women GENERALLY tend to have a rosier idea of romance, and a longing for their men to be romantic, affectionate and open and expressive about it. Look at chick-flicks. That's the kind of stuff that generates and perpetuates all this sentimental stuff. Guys GENERALLY don't get it. They're not on the same mind-frame. (There are exceptions to both 'rules' which is why I was emphatic with the term 'Generally'....) In terms of the hunter-gatherer caveman, they've bagged their woman and dragged her by the hair to their cave. That is obviously gesture enough to indicate they want you. You're "in his cave". What, he needs to keep banging you over the head with his club, and keep dragging you by the hair? Still? Don't you get it woman?? I think you need to discuss your concerns and tell him that you're beginning to feel unloved, and why. But it needs to be a constructive discussion without chest-poking accusations summed up by "You don't love me any more! I think you're going to dump me, you weasel!"
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