bubblyflower Posted March 28, 2016 Posted March 28, 2016 He dumped me in Jan the day before I left for my overseas holiday to visit fam because he found out my dad didn't like him and also because I confronted him about my suspicions of him seeing this girl-he had lunch with her and even liked all her photos on fb. He said it was all in my head and that I react so hard etc. His last words before I left were "f** hell I don't want to have a conversation with you when you can just fly off tomorrow. This convo is such a mindf** especially in this heat." On the day of my flight, he didn't apologise but just said "take care, have a safe trip. Keep smiling. You've been braver than me. I just got a lot of things to work out." I was obviously shocked he would swear at me but also heartbroken because I felt that if he really did care for me, he wouldn't care what my dad thought. After he broke it off, 1 week later, I decided to take him off instagram. I was hurt and I felt my gut was screaming that he was seeing this other girl. While I'm in malaysia, he sends me a whatsapp message: "hope you're enjoying your time on your holiday visiting fam. Hope you see more sights. Noticed you took me off instagram." I said thank you but that I really wanted to enjoy my holiday. 1 month later after I go NC, he texts "hey dropping a line, hope you are alright and keeping well." I broke my NC rule and told him I didn't like how he treated me and how he swore at me before I left. I said I don't condone that behaviour from anyone and it made me realise I could no longer see him in that way anymore. I got no reply but friends of mine who have fb told me that he started posting on fb about "soul-searching" and how life won't wait. They think it was referring to me. I quit fb. In my head Im thinking he already dumped me and left me for someone else. He chose to go-why would he send a text hoping that I'm alright. Can someone please explain his behaviour?
jen1447 Posted March 28, 2016 Posted March 28, 2016 Sounds like he's just starting to move on. Can't really blame him - not that he's 'right' and didn't treat you badly but even jerks are entitled to move on. Pretty simple I think. You should do the same. No more messaging. 3
stillafool Posted March 28, 2016 Posted March 28, 2016 . I broke my NC rule and told him I didn't like how he treated me and how he swore at me before I left. I said I don't condone that behaviour from anyone and it made me realise I could no longer see him in that way anymore. By the above statement you ended it. I definitely think he is seeing the other girl also and definitely he's seeing her now. What is it about his behavior do you want explained?
ExpatInItaly Posted March 28, 2016 Posted March 28, 2016 By the above statement you ended it. I definitely think he is seeing the other girl also and definitely he's seeing her now. What is it about his behavior do you want explained? Exactly. OP, I'm not sure where your confusion lies. You were pretty clear that you didn't want to see him anymore.
Author bubblyflower Posted March 28, 2016 Author Posted March 28, 2016 Thank you guys for your quick reply. I guess I feel confused because he dumped me yet still texts me to see if I'm okay whilst he's still seeing this other girl. I'm not sure if it's because he feels regret, or he wants to make himself feel better...who knows? I'm just like: well, how do you think I feel? You left me for someone else... I'm not only angry at what he did but also at myself. This is because when I did have a gut feeling he was seeing this girl, I was sure that when he found out my dad didn't like him, he saw that as a good reason/or excuse to leave, when in fact he was seeing another girl. He still denies to this day that he's with her. He used to tell me it was all in my head and how I react so hard. I hope in time it all goes away. I'm thinking of blocking him because I feel he's still trying to put his foot in the door....what you guys think?
Author bubblyflower Posted March 28, 2016 Author Posted March 28, 2016 (edited) But yea did I have a lucky escape? Edited March 28, 2016 by bubblyflower nil
Author bubblyflower Posted April 1, 2016 Author Posted April 1, 2016 Hello everyone My boyfriend (now ex) just broke up with me because he found out my dad didn't like him. We have been going out for 7 months and I was about to introduce him to my dad. I warned him my dad was quite strict and wouldn't like him the first time because that's how he was with all my past bfs as his preferable method is face to face convo. Dad asked me a lot of questions about him-relationship history, behaviour etc. He then told me he wasn't too sure he would like my ex boyfriend because he was worried he would be a player and lose his temper easily. However, he still wanted to meet him. Thing is my now ex boyfriend found out this reason because I told him everything-he asked & I didn't want to lie cos I'm terrible at it. He broke up with me and said he has lost interest in me because he got hurt and says my dad is wrong etc. Dad said he's just being defensive and warned me by two-three weeks he will be with someone else. I've heard rumours that he still likes me but also likes someone else and said he needed time to think... I feel crushed. Is there a way to get him back? Or should I just move on?
TaraMaiden2 Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 You've already posted a thread about this, and not only is he your ex, he also found another girl. Leave well alone. You dad seems to have been right about him, so I'd cool it and move on. 1
TaraMaiden2 Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 But yea did I have a lucky escape? Yes. (10 Chr's). 1
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