they Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 We met over 2 years ago on-line. She announced yesterday that she was upset because she said she had 2 of her closest friends saying they were in love with her, but she was still in love with her ex. So that means I'm not even number 3 on her list... I don't even know whether I should tell her I'm blocking her, I feel so stupid for having a crush on her. What would everyone else do ? .... 1
todreaminblue Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 you're not stupid for having feelings for someone who doesnt love you back...it happens.....its called unrequited love...blocking her is what you felt you had to do and that isnt wrong either.....go easy on yourself be around people who love you back...and do the things you love to do ....and maybe...just maybe when the time is right...you will find the person who was meant for you.....maybe even meeting her doing something you also love to do...with you..best wishes.........deb 1
Author they Posted April 1, 2016 Author Posted April 1, 2016 you're not stupid for having feelings for someone who doesnt love you back...it happens.....its called unrequited love...blocking her is what you felt you had to do and that isnt wrong either.....go easy on yourself be around people who love you back...and do the things you love to do ....and maybe...just maybe when the time is right...you will find the person who was meant for you.....maybe even meeting her doing something you also love to do...with you..best wishes.........deb Thanks Deb, unrequited love really sucks. 2
smudge21 Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 Thanks Deb, unrequited love really sucks. Worse feeling ever (after being dumped) as you get all that pain, without the actual relationship fun. Nothing much you can do but walk away. Hanging around just hurts especially if you see them occasionally. Social media is the worse thing ever in relationships and removing her from it will help. personally though as she's been a friend for that long and you accepted the friendship, I would tell her why you're saying goodbye. If she's never known how you feel, then suddenly going away will seem rude. At least telling her that you have feelings and you can't be around her will clear the air and you leave on a good friendly note. She's done nothing wrong really, so no reason to be treat her with disrespect. That's my opinion anyway. 1
Author they Posted April 1, 2016 Author Posted April 1, 2016 (edited) I decided to write to her. I don't feel she was truly innocent, I feel she may have led me on a bit. A year ago I told her I had feelings for her, and if anything, we had a stronger connection since then. But now she told me 2 other guys are in love with her, everything seems wrong. In my last message to her I mentioned that I think she shouldn't be friends with those 2 guys because it's unfair on them. I said that I'm blocking her to protect myself. I told her I thought it was best for her if I told her this than just ignore her. Not a very nice message for her to receive on 1st April, but I wanted to get it over with. So that's it :/ The worst thing is that she was starting to open up to me about the problems in her life and why she hadn't messaged me in months ... but said those 2 guys were supporting her. :/ I just liked her way too much. Edited April 1, 2016 by they 1
gimlynick Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 Someone said to me that boring girls get attention by 1 guy, normal girls by 3-5 and cute, nice girls get attention by minimum 10 guys. So I guess it's a really good looking, nice girl... She probably texts with a lot of guys who have a crush on her. Try to be that one person that makes the difference... And if she doesn't care well... You're not in a relation so go meet some other girls! 1
Author they Posted April 1, 2016 Author Posted April 1, 2016 (edited) Try to be that one person that makes the difference... And if she doesn't care well... You're not in a relation so go meet some other girls! Hi gimlynick, what do you mean by 'makes the difference' ? She is really good looking and nice... If you're refering to asking her out .. then it''s not going to work in my situation Edited April 1, 2016 by they 1
gimlynick Posted April 4, 2016 Posted April 4, 2016 Hi gimlynick, what do you mean by 'makes the difference' ? She is really good looking and nice... If you're refering to asking her out .. then it''s not going to work in my situation Why is asking her for a date not working? Then, I hope that you both have stuff in common where you can regurarly see eachother... How else can you start to show her that you are the one? 1
LD1990 Posted April 4, 2016 Posted April 4, 2016 I don't really see what she's doing that's wrong here. Is it her fault if guys like her? If you like a girl and want to date her, you have to make a move. Girls like guys who take charge and show initiative. You were friends with this girl for a year before mentioning your feelings, and even then it sounds like you didn't follow through or pursue a relationship. She saw you as a friend because that's what you acted like. 1
Satu Posted April 4, 2016 Posted April 4, 2016 I think you did the right thing. It's no fun being part of a crowd... 1
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