Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 So my "boyfriend" and I were going out for about two months. And then after getting physical too quickly he wanted to slow it down. Which was fine, he lives out of the city anyway, he's moving up to my city anyway. He use to make time for me all the time, talking, texting etc.. after we had sex though, he realised we didn't know each other and wanted to slow it down. I said fine. Although that's not what I wanted, I agreed because he did have a point, we did need to get to know each other better. For ages he talks about how busy he is, he texts me less, then I text him less, he texts me once a day, then I text him once a day. Now he has stopped texting all together and so I have stopped texting him. I give him the space but I think it's because he realised he doesn't like me anymore. As hard as it is to take, should I just start dating other people? seems like this has hit a dead end. I really liked this guy, but I am not one to sit on my ass and do nothing. Seems like we really liked each other and then we had sex ( which he enjoyed- I mean we both did) I thought we had a really good connection I mean he even said so too, but it looks like I've just picked another dud. I'm not about to chase him or anything but I am about to move on. I thought about emailing him telling him I want to move on but I don't know what good that will do. Suggestions?
Gaeta Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 He said he wanted to slow things down and you said ok. That's him slowing things down. My feeling on it though is he realized you're not it for him. Who cares why, he just doesn't have it for you anymore. The first 3 months of dating are very critical, a lot of new relationships don't make it to the 3rd month. It's not unusual. No need to explain anything to him in great detail, just tell him this is not working for you and you need someone ready and wanting a relationship and good luck.
mortensorchid Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 Same thing happened to me a few years ago. He said he wanted to slow it down, he was having some troubles, etc. Eventually we stopped communicating. Move on. Doesn't matter if he is telling you the truth or not, he's for whatever reason not interested and he doesn't deserve you. A man who likes you will find time for you or whatever else he wants to do with himself, even if it's just sitting in front of the TV doing nothing, he finds the time for that. You can do better.
Author Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted April 1, 2016 Author Posted April 1, 2016 Thanks ladies! I thought it was me being a bit silly! But like I don't think there is any specific need for me to continue well... talking to him, texting him, chatting to him on the phone. My friend said write him an email to him, but I kinda don't see the point really. I see the ball in his court, and if he's taken the ball out of the court well then I leave the court and play with someone else. I've done crying you know? I spend a big long cry on the way home from work yesterday and felt all that misery and rejection that plagues us all from time to time but I'm not grieving anymore. Just want to move on, get on with my life. They say to get a guy to chase you, lean back and don't make any moves and if they don't make any moves then it's your job to move and move far away.
Gaeta Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 You know some men don't have enough gut to break up so they will say things like they need a break or they need to slow down and then they slowly fade away. When someone wants to get out of your life : let him. When you meet a man that is really interested in you you won't have to lean back and let him come to you because he will be right there in your face making sure you are not forgetting about him. I have been dating simeine for 4 months. Zero drame, zero doubts, zero craving, it's easy, natural, smooth since beginning. That's how it's suppose to be.
Author Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted April 1, 2016 Author Posted April 1, 2016 You know some men don't have enough gut to break up so they will say things like they need a break or they need to slow down and then they slowly fade away. When someone wants to get out of your life : let him. When you meet a man that is really interested in you you won't have to lean back and let him come to you because he will be right there in your face making sure you are not forgetting about him. I have been dating simeine for 4 months. Zero drame, zero doubts, zero craving, it's easy, natural, smooth since beginning. That's how it's suppose to be. Congratulations Gaeta I know how much you waited for like me! it's so refreshing you found someone you could trust. That's awesome. That gives me hope even though I've been waiting for an age. It's weird, he ticked every little box I had on my "list" but he just wasn't into me. I am gutted though. I have settled before for the guy who likes me but I felt very controlled so, I haven't found that one that I know isn't going to bail every time I get close. I've rejected guys in the past, but the good ones only come few and far between. I think this guy was a good one, he just didn't want to date me long term. I'll still be incredibly grateful for getting " close enough" though 1
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