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I really just want the sex.... I don't want to hurt wife. Already did that. How would you go about finding a FB. Call me a Cake eater or whatever... it's not emotional to me... I need a female that wants the same thing. I am really not attracted to wife... weight gain... mostly and ****ter attitude.

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I'd rather ask why divorce isn't an option, than give you advice as to how to f*ck around on your wife.

 

 

So, why isn't divorce an option?

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katielee Established Member

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how about giving your wife a choice in her own life?

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She can do what she wants.... Why divorce over meaningless sex.... I have built a family , kids etc... I think if the OW is ok with the arrangement ....

 

 

I'm just not attracted to her, but in order for me to get what I want I have to divorce and give up everything....

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I think you are your screen name :laugh:

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She can do what she wants.... Why divorce over meaningless sex.... I have built a family , kids etc... I think if the OW is ok with the arrangement ....

 

 

I'm just not attracted to her, but in order for me to get what I want I have to divorce and give up everything....

 

There's always prostitution and Ashley Madison, but aren't they the same?

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She can do what she wants.... Why divorce over meaningless sex.... I have built a family , kids etc... I think if the OW is ok with the arrangement ....

 

 

I'm just not attracted to her, but in order for me to get what I want I have to divorce and give up everything....

 

 

Although not my cup of tea, this all seems fairly reasonable so long as your wife knows what's going on, so that she can make her own informed decisions regarding her life.

 

 

You're telling her, right?

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OP,

 

Did you ask her if she's cool with it? Not sure how you're going to go about finding this "arrangement." Most people who don't want attachment find prostitutes. That's part of the deal. They'll even throw in the STDs for free;). But you can't drag your wife into this. Seriously man that's not cool at all.

 

I'm not sure your ever going to find this arrangement. It's like wanting a job that pays CEO wages but has the responsibility of a cashier at a concession stand. What are you looking for from this thread aside from stirring the pot and making people question whether this issue is real or not?

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Oh I'm dead serious.... not trolling... I have posted before... You see I think she really does not have much feeling for me either... I had what is called on this board an EA with here best friend ... a best friend that she is still on contact with eventhough this was a year ago...

 

 

She was all sexy and working out when she thought I was leaving... I don't want to leave... and break up family , just some sex..

 

 

you see that's the issue, women are more emotional and I can see from the EA that it could hurt her feelings if I had a fling... so I dont want to do that... but at the same time why should I be denied?

 

 

It's the old I love you BUT not in love with you.... but don't want to slip up everything and ruin family and kids etc... just for some casual fun. I dont want prostitutes, but have though of it.

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She can do what she wants.... Why divorce over meaningless sex.... I have built a family , kids etc... I think if the OW is ok with the arrangement ....

 

 

I'm just not attracted to her, but in order for me to get what I want I have to divorce and give up everything....

 

Well, this type of situation would likely fly in France or Finland. In Finland they call extra marital relationships parallel relationships. In France it's called multi relationships and it is totally acceptable to both men and women.

 

In Muslim countries infidelity is punishable by death.

 

Typically countries where men and women have less of a gap between their earned income, is where infidelity is more accepted.

 

In the US, it's estimated by SOME infidelity experts that 80 percent of married people cheat. In the US infidelity is shrouded in guilt for some, so not everyone will admit to cheating when polled.

 

Many people who cheat never get caught or confess to a spouse, but they may confess to a counselor. The counselor can not tell the faithful spouse under confidentiality laws.

 

Just because a certain type of person does not understand a concept or relate to it, does not mean it's universally immoral or unacceptable to everyone.

 

Also, the difficulty in gathering accurate cheating statistics is that women tend to keep it secret, whereas a man does not mind revealing an infidelity as much.

 

Also, everyone has a different concept of what constitutes cheating.

 

Some people think strip clubs, and lap dances are cheating. My wife considers that cheating.

 

Others don't but a kiss is cheating.

 

My wife and I also have a couples friend who constantly says that she does not care if her husband has an affair as long as he leaves her alone and pays the mortgage.

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If you end up with an OW, you will hurt your wife if she finds out you are cheating on her.

You will hurt your kids too and most likely break up your happy family, whether or not you divorce or stay after d-day.

 

Some OWs are happy to be in a FB/FWB situation, but others don't, they get attached, they want more, some will want you to leave your wife and kids too.

Embarking on an affair is not usually as simple as just a means to provide you with sex, the other woman is an unknown quantity. Many who swear they just want sex, change their minds when they develop feelings...

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If you are just looking for sex, and your wife does not care, just hire an escort.

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I really just want the sex.... I don't want to hurt wife. Already did that. How would you go about finding a FB. Call me a Cake eater or whatever... it's not emotional to me... I need a female that wants the same thing. I am really not attracted to wife... weight gain... mostly and ****ter attitude.

 

Divorce your wife and then do as you please, or come clean, be honest with her and tell her that you desire sex badly and since it seems you're not getting sex from her you want to look elsewhere. With that said, allow her the same option.

 

It could be that she's feeling unloved and depressed because of her weight gain and you not wanting her isn't helping. Maybe another man could turn her cranks and make her feel alive. What's good for the goose is good for the gander, right?

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Oh I'm dead serious.... not trolling... I have posted before... You see I think she really does not have much feeling for me either... I had what is called on this board an EA with here best friend ... a best friend that she is still on contact with eventhough this was a year ago...

 

 

She was all sexy and working out when she thought I was leaving... I don't want to leave... and break up family , just some sex..

 

 

you see that's the issue, women are more emotional and I can see from the EA that it could hurt her feelings if I had a fling... so I dont want to do that... but at the same time why should I be denied?

 

 

It's the old I love you BUT not in love with you.... but don't want to slip up everything and ruin family and kids etc... just for some casual fun. I dont want prostitutes, but have though of it.

 

So staying in loveless and sexless marriage is what you want your kids to see and base their idea of what a relationship should be? Especially since you and your wife don't seem to get along..

 

Do you spend any family time with her or do you two live separate lives on some level? Sleep in the same bedroom?

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Aside of the fact that cheating is such a hurtful act - as it sounds like you well know- if you do cheat, you will have zero control over the actions of the ow.

 

Think of it from a pragmatic point of view. You can explain to the ow that it's just a roll in the hay for you, but what if she starts to get attached? You might feel that she understands you view of the arrangement, but how will you ever know?

 

If you are absolutely sure this is what you want to do, then I would ask why you don't just hire a sex trade worker. for her, it will just be a job,and for you, you'll get your bit on the side.

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we sleep in the same bed, have some things in common, its not a terrible marriage... I just want a ONS or something. If she cheats that's her guilt not mine.

 

 

Prostitutes scare me a little, but Iwould be able to afford a higher end model. that's the problem... women get attached. I guess men do to , my friend told me to go to his trade show in vegas with him and get it out of my system

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Besides the sexual attraction or lack of sex (I assume she is not interested in you either)......is your home a pleasant happy place for your kids?. Do they see you and your wife acting pleasantly, treating each other with respect and kindness, and acting as good co parents together?

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Besides the sexual attraction or lack of sex (I assume she is not interested in you either)......is your home a pleasant happy place for your kids?. Do they see you and your wife acting pleasantly, treating each other with respect and kindness, and acting as good co parents together?

 

 

 

yes.... we do have sex , I never siad we didn't it might be a Hi / low issue

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yes.... we do have sex , I never siad we didn't it might be a Hi / low issue

 

It might be a h/low issue, but if you are honest, is it actually good sex for your wife?

A thread today mentioned that as the wife she was getting "hooker" style sex and that was a complete turn off for her, so whilst her husband thought she was LD, she was HD but not for the sex he was offering.

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through the MC I think I am a bit narrcistic.

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Ashley Madison, escorts, street walkers

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through the MC I think I am a bit narrcistic.

 

Sounds like it.

 

I think you can do whatever you want - but your wife deserves HONESTY. If you tell her that you would like to try an open marriage, that's cool if she's up to it. But doing it behind her back without giving her the same option is not the way to go.

 

If you decide to go ahead anyway, please always use condoms with your wife so you don't spread anything to her.

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It might be a h/low issue, but if you are honest, is it actually good sex for your wife?

A thread today mentioned that as the wife she was getting "hooker" style sex and that was a complete turn off for her, so whilst her husband thought she was LD, she was HD but not for the sex he was offering.

 

 

I can see what you are saying.... and I agree what I am having with her is sex... just like what I want on the side... I would agree. I'm not much into the fake romance stuff. More on the rough side. But it sure seems like she does.... physically she has orgasms mentally she might want more romance....

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I can see what you are saying.... and I agree what I am having with her is sex... just like what I want on the side... I would agree. I'm not much into the fake romance stuff. More on the rough side.

Seems a shame to blow up your marriage, when a little thought put into your love making with your wife may reap benefits.

If she feels loved and sexy and desired, she will lose the weight and you will get the sex...

Rough can be fine sometimes, but few women appreciate rough all the time.

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Seems a shame to blow up your marriage, when a little thought put into your love making with your wife may reap benefits.

If she feels loved and sexy and desired, she will lose the weight and you will get the sex...

Rough can be fine sometimes, but few women appreciate rough all the time.

I kinda want a variety... I would like to see 10 women once than 1 ten times. I dont want to get to know them. relate to them, hear their stories... just when two consenting adults wan to stamp one out and move on

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