cousin38 Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 I've been single about six months. I was previously in a very long relationship. I've been out of the dating game a long time. I M\38 messaged a woman F\27 on Facebook about a month ago. A mutual friend of ours had mentioned to me that her live-in boyfriend of five years broke up with her about five weeks previously. We text pretty much all day every day when we aren't busy with work. We have hung out three times. The last time was two weeks ago when we met up with her sister and her sister's boyfriend for St. Patrick's day. It's been two weeks since we last met because she has been pretty sick and I've been busy. We are meeting this weekend though. She seems to be pretty into me. Before we had even met, she asked me if I wanted to attend a concert out of state in May. We bought the tickets last week. She wants me to buy an expensive bicycle so I can be her "riding partner." I've had more than one person tell me that she and I have "great chemistry" and we "look like a couple." I like her a lot. We have a ton of stuff in common. Our mutual friend said that she told him that she could "see a relationship" with me in the future. I don't have any experience regarding dealing with women who have left long-term relationships. I've read online that I should move slowly. My friends tell me the same thing. I haven't tried to kiss her yet. I fear that I will become a rebound guy if I move too quickly or I will be placed in the friend-zone if I go too slow. Any advice?
smackie9 Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 If you were a rebound guy you both would be infatuated with each other and sleeping together by now...but you are not so take it as it comes....if it feels right then go for it kiss her. Seems you are doing just fine so far.
ses Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 Don't expect anything more than a hookup or fling—she's recently single from a 5 year relationship. I hate to be suspicious of her motives, but the fact that she wants you to purchase an expensive bike sounds like she's looking for a man to fund her expenses. Don't be her checkbook. You don't deserve to be someone's rebound if you're looking for something serious. She's young and probably wants to sow her wild oats after spending her early twenties committed—and I say that as someone her age who hooked up with several guys until I finally decided to commit.
computersandsuch Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 Sorry. I didn't word that correctly. She recently bought herself an expensive bicycle. She wants me to buy one so we can ride together.
computersandsuch Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 (edited) If you were a rebound guy you both would be infatuated with each other and sleeping together by now...but you are not so take it as it comes....if it feels right then go for it kiss her. Seems you are doing just fine so far. Thank you for the reply. I think I'm going to kiss her when I see her next. It seemed by her body language the last time I saw her that she wanted me to kiss her when we were walking downtown. I chickened out because another mutual friend of mine told me that this girl wasn't ready yet. I'm just gonna go for it next time. Edited March 31, 2016 by computersandsuch 1
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