TX-SC Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 It depends... An emotional affair can be much worse than a one time drunken ONS. So, it really depends on the PA and EA and what they entail. If your spouse falls in love and talk crap about you to their affair partner, that's pretty hard to recover from. 1
dreamingoftigers Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 It depends... An emotional affair can be much worse than a one time drunken ONS. So, it really depends on the PA and EA and what they entail. If your spouse falls in love and talk crap about you to their affair partner, that's pretty hard to recover from. My spouse never claimed "love" but he did talk crap about me to others. (Not APs). I just found that it pissed me off because it wasn't true. And I threatened to tell everyone THE REAL TRUTH. And if he couldn't figure it out, I would help put it in context for him. It stopped there, and I haven't had another episode of it outside of MC. luckily, in MC our MC was able to spot it, and able to reach out to him and show him more how to deal with what he was feeling and how to address that directly, instead of making the story framework fit his emotional state, which may or may not have anything to do with me. I don't suffer fools gladly. My father is a real loser that way, the kind who talks crap about my mother and us kids. So I was used to that long before I left home. The only thing that scares these guys is the truth. They honestly can't handle it without the skills to figure out what they are feeling, how THEY need to deal with it.
Mrs. John Adams Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 It depends... An emotional affair can be much worse than a one time drunken ONS. So, it really depends on the PA and EA and what they entail. If your spouse falls in love and talk crap about you to their affair partner, that's pretty hard to recover from. i thought you and your wife have never been afflicted by infidelity of any kind.....and yet your voice this opinion? You have no idea what infidelity does or does not do....you are speculating based on what you have read. you started this thread...infidelity and its affect on my marriage http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/marriage-life-partnerships/575623-infidelity-s-effect-my-marriage 1
TX-SC Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 i thought you and your wife have never been afflicted by infidelity of any kind.....and yet your voice this opinion? You have no idea what infidelity does or does not do....you are speculating based on what you have read. you started this thread...infidelity and its affect on my marriage http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/marriage-life-partnerships/575623-infidelity-s-effect-my-marriage I have been cheated on twice, once by my fiancee not long before our wedding was to take place. Just because my wife has not cheated does not mean that I have not been cheated on. The first time it was my first GF who I dated for nearly three years. She cheated with her boss. That one actually started as an EA, though it did turn physical. The fiancee was in many ways more difficult. It too had both elements but the things that she said about me were horrible. You would think that she would not MARRY me if she thought poorly of me. In the end, she said it was to impress the other guy. Well, good luck with THAT! I had to cancel the wedding and all arrangements. But at least there was no divorce to go through and we didn't live together. I was able to use the experiences from the fiancee and other GFs to learn how to treat my wife. That's why we get along so well. And, as I said in my thread, reading here is also a help. If you believe that this disqualifies my statements here, I'll move along and stop posting. 1
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