DannyB56 Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 Hey guys! I and my ex dated for 9 months.It's safe to say it was the hardest relationship of my life.We just didn't get along.We argued all the time which sometimes entailed yelling and calling each other names.We had our fair share of good moments as well but sadly, they were fewer than the bad ones.Last night we broke up.I wanted us to separate on good terms but she didn't take it lightly.She ended up screaming and throwing heavy objects in my direction. Unfortunately, there's more to the story.At the beginning of our relationship she was at least bearable and things were seemingly good. I needed some financial aid at the time so since i had nobody else to turn to I asked her for a loan which she gave to me but said I quote: ''This isn't a loan, think of it like a gift.'' I insisted on paying her back somewhere down the line but she refused that so I never paid her back.My mind was not at ease so she wrote an email to me basically explaining how I am not liable.I'm concerned though because when she's angry she doesn't think rationally so she might twist everything around and portray herself as the victim of blackmail or something ridiculous like that.My point is can i get arrested?Can she sue me?She sent the money through Western Union and we live in different countries.I live in Bulgaria and she lives in the UK.We visited each other 2 times a month.So can i get into trouble even though in this email she herself says I'm not liable?
elaine567 Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 (edited) Do the decent thing and pay her back the money you owe her. Edited March 31, 2016 by elaine567 removed quote 1
Author DannyB56 Posted March 31, 2016 Author Posted March 31, 2016 Do the decent thing and pay her back the money you owe her. I will when I have it but can i get intro any sort of legal trouble at this point?That's all I wanna know?
keiji Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 Well, the legislation is different in every country, but I guess it's all a mater of evidence. I'm assuming you didn't sign a contract, considering she said it was a "gift". So no, you can't get arrested. That said, give her the money back as soon as you can and get it out of the way. Material things are the least important but, unfortunately, they become war material after a breakup. 2
jen1447 Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 Yeah, I really doubt the law here varies much in Bulgaria and UK compared to the US. She'd need to have a legally binding contract to substantiate and enforce a civil claim. If not, everyone could go around suing everyone else claiming they owed them money. Also it'd be a matter for civil court, not a criminal matter, so you wouldn't get arrested anyway. Ppl default on mortgages and don't get arrested. 1
losangelena Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 No, you can't get in trouble. How big was the loan? Even if she does sue you, all you'd have to do is show the court that email and you'll be fine. 1
carhill Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 I wouldn't worry about legal ramifications but, if you make this a lifestyle, you might end up disappeared. Get that education she helped pay for and move on to earning a valuable and honest living in life and thank her for her assistance in that goal and, BTW, there isn't a human alive that can stop you from paying her back if you want to, not even her. Good luck!
Lifeissomething Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 My mind was not at ease so she wrote an email to me basically explaining how I am not liable. This. Helps if you kept the email--If not, lesson learned always keep emails of this nature or importance--never know when you will need them. She can't put this in writing and the decide she wants her money back--that changes the whole context of the gift/money to begin with. If she gifted it to you, it's yours. I can't give a friend $60 for their b-day and then decide (upon the friendship going sour) that it was actually a loan and I want my money back.
d0nnivain Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 Getting arrested implies you committed a crime. Her suing you is a civil action. They are very different things. I don't know anything about the laws in your country or hers. You would need to pose your Q to a lawyer who knows both. I would advise you to print out & keep that e-mail where she said the money was a gift. Then if she tries to take legal action of any sort, you are protected.
bathtub-row Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 No crime here to be arrested for. If it makes you feel better to pay her back somewhere down the road, then do that. Her thinking when loaning you the money was probably that the two of you would remain together. Silly on her part but whatever. I would pay her back just because I don't like to be indebted to anyone, especially a nutcase ex. Lol. Just in case she decides to go off the deep end, make sure you change the password on your email account, and print that email as a pdf and save it to a cloud storage.
jen1447 Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 The email absolves you of liability. I actually doubt it would if she had a contract, unless the email itself was represented as some form of addendum to the contract and was notarized et al. Moot point tho - apparently she has no contract so the claim is (very likely, assuming Bulgaria law is anything like US law as far as loans and contracts go) unenforceable.
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