Break up

[Kab0027]

Both 31. Met her on dating site. Dated for 3 months. After few weeks of meeting she introduced me to her mom. She really liked me and we got along good. But from the first day I found her very stressed out about life. She is still going through school and I am in family business. She was married before which ended badly. I was always very helpful to her. But something happens to her after few days we hang out have fun and then suddenly she breaks up. In the past I helped her with some stuff for her room from which she gave me a check. After 2 weeks of break up I found her back online dating. I got angry and cashed the check.On Valentine's after 2 weeks of cashing the check she text me angry that why would i cash the check. I told her I was angry. Then she blocks me and asked me not call her anymore. 3 weeks after I activated my dating profile and the next day I found out she was checking up on my profile. She made a new profile and checked up on me. After she deactivated it again. I thought she might wanna talk.I called her 3 times from private which she picked up and after I said hello I hung up the phone. I wanted to talk But I was not sure. So today I called and she went berserk on me. She told me not call her anymore. The reason I contact her coz I was confused why would she check up on my profile and why would she text me on Valentine's about the check. And now when I did contact she got angry told me not to contact. 2 months since break up and I month since valentines. I don't know but still some part of me want her back. She mentioned all I care is about the money but I told her if money would have been main thing for me then I would have never dated her. Friends tell me I can do better then her any day but I never cared she was financially stable or not or was she pretty or not. I am still confused why would she break up with me and go back on dating site.

[smudge21]

Sounds like she doesn't know what she wants and is doing that on/off thing with you. Doesn't really want you, doesn't want you to be with anyone else either (hence the checking up). The fact remains that whatever happens, she broke it off with you. She made that decision and hasn't come back for you. As much as we sometimes want people in our lives, even people who are clearly wrong for us, we often simply have to let go. Her attitude towards you comes across as defensive and the whole back in the dating game after leaving you is worrying. You don't need this kind of head trauma in your life. No one does. Dating should be easy and when it's not, you have to wonder how will the rest of the relationship go.