When did you know it was finally over and how long did it take you to get over him?

[Decipher_Man_Speak]

Or her?

 

For me, it was three years of on-again-off-again, two years of that supposedly engaged.

 

He was my first love and I kept holding on through cheating, lying, as well as verbal, mental and eventually physical abuse. Everytime I would leave and end up sucked right back in, due to his excuses of depression and alcoholism as well as his declarations of love for me.

 

This last time, I went against my family and friends and gave up everything (job, home, security) to go back to him. It didn't work. He attacked me in the car and after a night of crying, I dried my tears and made the decision to finally leave for good.

 

It took me three years of abuse and four months on zoloft to finally get over him.

 

I'm wondering if anyone else wants to share their stories. I suppose I'm sharing mine so that anyone lamenting their ex, especially an abusive one, who feels they may die without them, or are utterly heartbroken will know that given time, space and the love of family, friends, and/or medical help: all things heal and you too can and will get over this.

[LovelyJoey]

I'm so sorry to hear that happened to you, I'm so glad you cut it off with that jerk he so did not deserve you at all. Us people who love are not weak, but the powerful ones who win in the end, while jerks like him always lose. I know it can hurt because sometimes we are blinded by love to see the bigger more important picture. You're right, we will all be okay, with love and support we can heal with time we can all get through this. I'm only 16 and haven't been in a real relationship, been left twice by someone I cared so deeply about, one happened only about 1 week ago recently to someone I thought I was in love with, she made me feel so special and we both got so close, like the best thing that had ever happened to me in my life, totally forgot about the first girl who left me, and even though we weren't dating, she said she'd never leave, and then one day, out of the blue, that was it. I made a post about it but it's a long story though I understand how hard it can be and the torture of not believing you can live without them. Though thank you for telling your story, made me feel better too and like these forums, makes us know we're not alone! Stay strong!