Unique situation...

[jordanc]

Hey, my girlfriend broke up with me on March 17th, about a week and a half ago. At first, she said it was family problems. Then I heard from some friends that she said I was too clingy(I don't think I was clingy, she would yell at me to text back haha). After she sent the breakup text, I responded with "Okay" and handled everything well from there. Then, I started freaking out and I sent her a really big long text 3 times.... Breakup was Thursday so... 1 big long text on Saturday, another on Wednesday, and another on Friday(The Friday 8 days from breakup). They were all reasonable text just telling her sorry and stuff... I wasn't begging for her back. She never replied to those texts but she read them/opened them. To be honest, all I really want to see in her is a good future. Her dad and her older sister is in jail for drug use, and she told me she's used drugs before(weed). She's 19 and I'm 19 also. I have never done drugs in my life and I never will. When we met, she made the decision of staying at the school for me, because she was new and was supposed to only stay one semester. Also she quit weed for me, and then 7 months later she needed it because she's had major anxiety. Not knowing of myself... I didn't know what weed does to anxiety and I kinda didn't really look into it that much(her doctors even told her to do it). I totally regret saying no because now she seems like she can function and enjoy life. I am in the process of No Contact, day 5, started Friday. But there's on problem. She's in my drum line/percussion group. It's a group of 15, so it's a pretty small group. There's another couple in there so there used to be two *sigh*. 2-3 Times a week we practice for shows and what not, and every other Saturdays we compete(comps last for 10 hours).

 

How do I make things work out with her again and tell her the mistakes I've made?

 

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How should I do the No Contact Rule?

(I ignore her and she ignores me too)

 

Also I think she broke up with me because I kinda let myself go. I had REALLY bad breathe because I was about to get my wisdom teeth pulled, and I couldn't do anything about it unless I chug mints every 10 minutes. I lost my tan because I quit doing Water Polo for drum line (Practicing to Replace the Drum set player for next year), and I KINDA lost my muscles. She wanted to do things and I said no, which was my mistake.

 

I know exactly what to do, such as the reminder text to make her remember all the great times we had, and I have the rest of my strategy planned out. Any tips or concerns?

 

And I sent long text about my mistakes, I didn't beg. Try and keep up, sorry its hard to explain.

 

-Thank you.

 

ps: if you need more info tell me, ill happily say anything

 

 

EDIT: we have never fought or argued before... We can be happy together if I figure it out

Edited March 31, 2016 by jordanc

[amaysngrace]

You need a new girlfriend because this one sounds like a mess. Two main guys in her life are in jail so she has a really warped sense of how a man should be.

 

Quit trying to figure her out. You probably never will.