Coollaxer Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 My girlfriend told me that the passion isn't really there anymore, like things are kind of like routine now and it's very comfortable and I guess boring? I was talking too her and I siad I felt the same way latley and I want it back. I told her that I basically wanted to flirt with her, make it new, and like chase her after she throws a pillow at me, talk about deep stuff, things like that and she agreed she did too and was bery happy with that. She said we really only talk about our days to each other and that's it. I try to flirt with her and such bjt she doesn't really see it that much, and we only really have sex 1 or 2 times a week as we are 18. Any advice to bring the passion back?? And we also don't see each other much right now as she works and I play lacrosse in college. So about 3 times a week I'd say.
wildfiremichael Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 My girlfriend told me that the passion isn't really there anymore, like things are kind of like routine now and it's very comfortable and I guess boring? I was talking too her and I siad I felt the same way latley and I want it back. I told her that I basically wanted to flirt with her, make it new, and like chase her after she throws a pillow at me, talk about deep stuff, things like that and she agreed she did too and was bery happy with that. She said we really only talk about our days to each other and that's it. I try to flirt with her and such bjt she doesn't really see it that much, and we only really have sex 1 or 2 times a week as we are 18. Any advice to bring the passion back?? And we also don't see each other much right now as she works and I play lacrosse in college. So about 3 times a week I'd say. I know exactly what you mean. I felt exactly the same when my Ex. told me that she's missing the passion. A cool little trick that helped me with it was, taking her on dates. Doesn't have to be dinners and movies but you take her out to do something together and just have a good time, making her feel appreciated and noticed. I don't remember the article that helped me but this is what worked for me! Hope it works for you too! Good luck!
Gaeta Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 How long have you been dating? About setting up a romantic date like a pick nick by a lake somewhere.
smackie9 Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 Do you have any interests in common? maybe you two can find something new to do that's outside your comfort zone, like indoor rock climbing, or go explore the city like tourists with another couple.
Author Coollaxer Posted March 31, 2016 Author Posted March 31, 2016 I try to surprise her a good amount ever since we started dating, flowers, candys, food, if she's having a bad day cheer her up, maybe like 1 or 2 dates a month, dinner or a movie. We had plans to go to the city bjt that didn't last since we didn't have the Time. She's very into school and reading and English. I don't really like school too Much? I mean I have to do it so I do. College is kinda boring to me (community college I commute too) and we don't have sex that often. I feel like her sex drive just isn't there too much. Then again we can never enjoy it since her parents are always home and she is always VERY paranoid someone will come to the basement and walk in on us. We've been dating for 11 months on the 3rd and we are 18. Both each other's first real love. She loves reading and I really don't too much haha, but I told her if she gives me a book to read I'll read it with her and we can discuss it. I'm gonna make an effort for her but no promises LOL. I know it can't hurt so I'll try it. And also I know working out with your significant other boosts the sex drive maybe? So I'm trying that too. One more thing. She feels that I don't give her butterflies when we have sex. Is that supposed to happen? Like we can make love and just ****, I guess I should focus on making love more? I'm not very good with reading her emotions with sex LOL thanks for the help
Author Coollaxer Posted March 31, 2016 Author Posted March 31, 2016 And not too many Intrests... Like dates and stuff are fun but the only thing we both really share as an interest is community service. We are a lot different. Bjt is thst a bad thing...?
Author Coollaxer Posted March 31, 2016 Author Posted March 31, 2016 Honestly... To me it seems like she just wants to live in a fairy tail all the time bc that's how the beginning of the relationship was. But it's supposed to die down some right?
smackie9 Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 I see how this can be confusing because you both have such expectations, and it's difficult to understand when you have no experience. Sometimes a relationship just runs it's course. When the honeymoon stage is over, that's when you know whether or not you still have that deep intense connection. I feel, sorry to say but this relationship is starting to fade itself out. You don't have to have issues/arguments for it to end. **Having a lot in common, and having shared passions is what is needs for a relationship to last for the long haul.
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