Lpbluejm Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 I've been in a situation with this girl for what seems like way too long. I've known her since high school, we're now in our early-mid 20's. Back in high school she sometimes showed interest in me, asking me to hang out with her here and there but I generally paid no attention to her as I was dating around at the time. Fast forward to about a year ago, and she unexpectedly appears in my life again. She got a job in the same area as me and began randomly coming into my workplace(a coffee shop) just about every day I was there. We very casually flirted, and I found myself becoming very attracted to her. My friends who hung out there regularly would notice how when I wasn't there she wouldn't bother coming in. Everyone around the situation seemed to sense some tension, and eventually one of my buddies convinced me to ask her out. I eventually wandered to where she worked, as I sometimes would on my breaks just to chat. I got her number and mentioned that I'd like to hangout sometime. She seemed receptive, and everything was going well until I was on my way out. She stopped me to mention that she had a boyfriend. I didn't make a big deal out of it and asked if it was ok if we got some coffee anyway. She agreed, we met up and had some nice conversation. I decided to write her off since she was unavailable, and around the same time got a different job that put our regular interactions to a halt. After pretty much forgetting all about her for a few months, she added me on Snapchat and began messaging me here and there. This led to her texting me one day, us chatting a little bit and then making plans to catch up. Once we settled on a day, she suddenly cancelled last minute and telling me she wasn't feeling well. I said no problem, and to just let me know when she'd like to spend some time together. A week later she texts me again asking when I'm free. We plan to meet up, and we actually go through with it. We met for some coffee, walked around a park and got lunch together. I felt there was definitely some chemistry there, lots of laughing, easy flowing conversation and good vibes. It was very laid back. She also informed me she recently broke it off with her ex. I mentioned planning some more time in the future to hang out and she seemed receptive. I held off on making any strong moves because of how recently she had gotten out of a 3+ year relationship. A few days later I sent her a text mentioning that I enjoyed hanging out and would like to do it again sometime. No response. It's been about a week and I am hesitant to do anything but wait for her to reach out to me. I'm wondering if she has lost interest, or if there are complications due to her ex. If you've taken the time to read this all I appreciate any perspective of my options going forward.
thecrucible Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 I would be careful as you don't know whether she genuinely likes you or whether she's looking for an outlet since she is newly broken-up. You don't know whether she is trying to patch up things with her ex or not. I think you are doing the right thing by hanging back and not chasing her at all, just letting her come to you.
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