OldSoulBiz Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 For the guys out there: Don't you just love it when you're hitting it off with a girl, just for her to casually drop the "My boyfriend blah blah blah" comment? For crying out loud woman, do you think I'm chit chatting with you just for ****s and giggles? Get outta here! 2
TaraMaiden2 Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 It's more tactful than "Get lost you creep, you're really not floating my boat at all!" 11
blackcat777 Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 I do this right out of the gates if a guy starts up any direct and personal flirting with me. Why? Because... I have a boyfriend. It keeps me out of uncomfortable situations, and it can direct him toward a girl who IS available. It also makes my boyfriend really happy when I do this! Wouldn't you want your girlfriend to do the same for you? 5
Imported Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 Better than ****ing around with a chick that has a boyfriend. Plenty of women without that problem.
basil67 Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 When you're talking to a random girl, why would you think that she'd be single, available or interested? Surely it's logical that there's only a minimal chance she'd be interested 1
GoodOnPaper Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 For the guys out there: Don't you just love it when you're hitting it off with a girl, just for her to casually drop the "My boyfriend blah blah blah" comment? For crying out loud woman, do you think I'm chit chatting with you just for ****s and giggles? Get outta here! After college this happened to me ALL the time - drove me crazy. I swear that my wife must have been the only woman in the world who was actually single and available at that time. 1
Shining One Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 I do this right out of the gates if a guy starts up any direct and personal flirting with me. Why? Because... I have a boyfriend. It keeps me out of uncomfortable situations, and it can direct him toward a girl who IS available.This is good and I'm fairly sure this is not what the OP is complaining about. I've had women bring up the boyfriend after a lengthy conversation, a dance, or I've bought them a few drinks. I believe it's those situations the OP is complaining about.
WaitingForBardot Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 This is good and I'm fairly sure this is not what the OP is complaining about. I've had women bring up the boyfriend after a lengthy conversation, a dance, or I've bought them a few drinks. I believe it's those situations the OP is complaining about. If this is what he means then a simple "Are you single?" will clarify things. Not 100% effective, but it's what I usually did anyways... 1
Author OldSoulBiz Posted March 31, 2016 Author Posted March 31, 2016 This is good and I'm fairly sure this is not what the OP is complaining about. I've had women bring up the boyfriend after a lengthy conversation, a dance, or I've bought them a few drinks. I believe it's those situations the OP is complaining about. This guy gets it.
ChickiePops Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 This is good and I'm fairly sure this is not what the OP is complaining about. I've had women bring up the boyfriend after a lengthy conversation, a dance, or I've bought them a few drinks. I believe it's those situations the OP is complaining about. So people who aren't single shouldn't talk to anyone? Or be allowed out of the house? I agree that letting a guy buy me a drink is taking it too far but..conversation? No. 4
basil67 Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 This is good and I'm fairly sure this is not what the OP is complaining about. I've had women bring up the boyfriend after a lengthy conversation, a dance, or I've bought them a few drinks. I believe it's those situations the OP is complaining about. Ah, this explanation makes sense. If I get a guy trying to talk to me when I'm out clubbing or at a pub, I just brush him off. I don't see the point in engaging him in conversation if I'm not single. 1
Shining One Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 So people who aren't single shouldn't talk to anyone?That's not what I said. I personally would have preferred that the women in question let me know earlier in the conversation that she was not single. I could have then made an informed decision on whether or not I wanted to keep talking to her. Yes, I realize I should have inquired about her status earlier in the conversation.Or be allowed out of the house?Hyperbole much?I agree that letting a guy buy me a drink is taking it too far but..conversation? No.I should have used and/or in my previous post. Usually, it's a combination (conversation and drinks) and not just one or the other.
Els Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 If you can't even talk to someone for 10 minutes without feeling that you've 'wasted your time' when you find out they aren't single, you have bigger problems than dating. I agree that letting you buy them a drink is too far, but I don't see that mentioned anywhere in the OP. 1
len51 Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 Many men seem hesitant to let their intentions known quickly. Life is too short to chat up a girl as a friend. It usually ends like yours did or months later when you want to be more than just friends, she already has you in her friend zone and cannot view you as anything else. You can start of by asking her if she has a boyfriend or husband since a girl like her is usually scooped up quickly. If that is not your style you can ask her politely if she is taken because you did not want to offend anyone by talking to her. If I wanted a relationship or just a one night stand, whoever I was talking to knew that pretty quickly. I started off flirting and seducing. How they reacted to that told me all that I needed to know. I have a good sense of humor so I can get away with sexual innuendos and questions.
Shining One Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 lengthy10 minutesFeel free to quote anything from my posting history in which I indicate that lengthy = 10 minutes.
Els Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 Feel free to quote anything from my posting history in which I indicate that lengthy = 10 minutes. Maybe instead of making this about you (FTR, my post that you quoted wasn't directed at you), you should let the OP speak for himself and provide examples of what he means by 'hitting it off with a girl' instead?
ChickiePops Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 That's not what I said. I personally would have preferred that the women in question let me know earlier in the conversation that she was not single. I could have then made an informed decision on whether or not I wanted to keep talking to her. Yes, I realize I should have inquired about her status earlier in the conversation.Hyperbole much?I should have used and/or in my previous post. Usually, it's a combination (conversation and drinks) and not just one or the other. You just said exactly the same thing. That you likely won't want to speak to a woman unless you're going to get something (namely a date and/or sex) from her.
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