Author Rym Posted March 30, 2016 Author Posted March 30, 2016 Stop focusing on him and start working on yourself to understand why you have stayed in a relationship that is so toxic where your partner treats you with distain and thinks its funny that you caught him talking to another woman he recently slept with. This shows how little respect he has for you. Hey thank you! I just want to say that they never actually had sex, since she lives in Germany and I'm from Montreal. They skyped, and talked by Facebook, and sent images, but they couldn't have slept together because of the distance. Although if the distance wasn't an issue, pretty damn sure they would have! (hence the "Ah Monika why are you so far away!) So go ahead and make him angry, have HIM end the relationship, and be done with him already. Haha I am actually 120% that this is what will happen. It's always like this. I bring an issue, then he gets angry and breaks if off. So the chances of that happening again are relatively high. I'm also pretty sure he won't like me asking him to delete her (since he values his "friends" oh so much apparently), and that will cause a whole lot of a mess. If he dumps her she'll chase after him (like she has previously). She should end it by text. Block and delete him from her life. I do get where you're coming from with that idea, after all, let's take a look in the past and we see a pattern. And that's one thing I am also afraid of. I'll have to decide whether I do it by text but it's pretty hard to do it that way though. I have some stuff at his place right now and we're supposed to meet up in about an hour to go to the gym. Where I'll have to pretend that my mind hasn't been racing all day about the issue. And after the gym, I go to his place and we make supper. So that's why text is a bit hard in this context. But I could tell do the other alternative and make him angry and then just pack my stuff and leave. 1
stillafool Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 I do get where you're coming from with that idea, after all, let's take a look in the past and we see a pattern. And that's one thing I am also afraid of. I'll have to decide whether I do it by text but it's pretty hard to do it that way though. I have some stuff at his place right now and we're supposed to meet up in about an hour to go to the gym. Where I'll have to pretend that my mind hasn't been racing all day about the issue. And after the gym, I go to his place and we make supper. So that's why text is a bit hard in this context. But I could tell do the other alternative and make him angry and then just pack my stuff and leave. Why can't you just pick up your stuff, tell him it's over and leave? Why do you have to text anything when you can tell him in person. Don't go to the gym and make supper with him when you want to break up. 1
ChickiePops Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 Looking back at all of your posts about this guy, you've been having problems pretty much since you met. It's time to dump this loser and move on. 1
Satu Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 (edited) OP He doesn't deserve you. You don't believe that yet, but you will. Loving relationships aren't like this. One day you'll be with a man who treats you with respect, is honest with you, cares for you, is true to you. And you'll look back on this relationship, and laugh at his idiotic and selfish antics. Believe me, your future will be much better than your time with this loser. Take care. Edited March 30, 2016 by Satu 2
mightycpa Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 I saw him on Wednesday to go to an event. Before he wanted to get food so we went but it took a long time, so at the end he was frustrated and i wasnt feeling well. We went outside and i asked him if he was done and he got mad, because i was stressing him out. He told me to go away and i went to the event right away. Its not the first time he tells me i stress him out. When i want to talk about it, he tells me dont you see im joking. Anyhow, he came and apologized and asked me if i wanted him to leave me alone to which i said yes so he left. We decided I'd be best if he stays with his friends and me with mine during the event.. We texted each other during saying that i did care about him and he said the same. 12 year olds shouldn't date seriously, because this is the kind of thing that splits them apart.
Author Rym Posted March 31, 2016 Author Posted March 31, 2016 The difference between you and him is that you care too much not to hurt him and he just doesn't care enough to protect your feelings. End it over a text. Block him and be done. Make sure he has no access to you. You'll be in pain for awhile but you'll get through it. Hi guys! So UPDATE! We saw eachother yesterday. My expectations of how it would end were definitely not disappointed. I decided that I couldn't do it by text because i just knew how it would end up in person. I just decided to be completely honest with him and tell him everything that I said in my original post. So that I was very bothered by everything that happened and didn't want him to be friends with Monika. Things escalated quickly from there. He got supeer mad and angry that I bring her up again. So we just fought I told him I was just too disgusted by his past behavior. He was even ready to completely block her or unfriend her and send her a message why. Then I asked him to show me all their messages. He let me but I could see he was literally sweating while I was reading. Not even after about 3-4minutes he changed his mind got mad again told me he would send me all the messages if I wanted to and that theres stuff in there that he didn't tell me about. (I guess the skype thing? Or else doesnt even matter) he got to mad actually he told me he would register on tinder right away and sleep with how many girls he wants. So thank you guys. Its officially over I took my stuff and left. I can't monitor this guy for the rest of life. He kept telling me he's not the same guy anymore and to just let go of the past, kept accusing me for my inability to let go and to keep living and bringing the past. But after the third time there's a limit. So he can finish his life alone, I chose to be alone rather than be accompanied with this guy. 3
Zahara Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 So thank you guys. Its officially over I took my stuff and left. I can't monitor this guy for the rest of life. He kept telling me he's not the same guy anymore and to just let go of the past, kept accusing me for my inability to let go and to keep living and bringing the past. But after the third time there's a limit. So he can finish his life alone, I chose to be alone rather than be accompanied with this guy. Good for you. Stay strong and make sure you block him. There is no going back from this so cut the cord.
Satu Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 So thank you guys. Its officially over I took my stuff and left. I can't monitor this guy for the rest of life. He kept telling me he's not the same guy anymore and to just let go of the past, kept accusing me for my inability to let go and to keep living and bringing the past. But after the third time there's a limit. So he can finish his life alone, I chose to be alone rather than be accompanied with this guy. Well done! You did the right thing. Follow up now with strict no contact, so that he can't try to mess with your head. Take care. 1
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