blackcat777 Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 My boyfriend is under a severe amount of academic stress right now, and I'm wondering if anyone has any ideas about how to be a source of support for him? He's going into the medical field... studies at least 40 hours per week... One of the hardest classes he's taking right now only has a 40% pass rate. He's always up late into the night. He also has a job, which is taking a toll on him. I suggested seeing if he could get his hours switched to weekends only because weeknights are so vital. I try to make sure there's always good food for him and give shoulder rubs. He was up late last night freaking out, and I feel really bad when he's upset. Anyone have any tips for supporting your other half through tough times? Thanks
five2nine Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 he needs his space to get school work and studying done, so be sure not to bother or stress him during that time. But you can also help him with things you know he needs or maybe providing him a good meal once in a while, snacks, surprises when he has time, etc. Only you know what he likes or needs help with. Being supportive and understanding while giving him space to get his work done is most important. 1
Els Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 I was going to suggest giving him time for himself and taking care of more household responsibilities when it's crunch time for him - but it seems you're already doing that. Another thing I do have to stress, from experience (I was with my SO since he was in medical school - and trust me, the stress continues after they graduate!) is that you also should make sure that you take care of yourself. Otherwise, if you are focused solely on supporting him, after some time it might take its toll and lead to disillusionment/resentment - which you really don't want to happen. So by all means give him back rubs and food, but be sure to pamper yourself and make time for your own interests and hobbies as well. 1
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