Toodaloo Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 I was saying that I didn't need to know he wanted to knock one out, there was no need for him to tell me that. I did ignore the first rude comment he made for a day, then he started asking how I was, making a decent conversation, it was when I asked him how his day went, he then replied with another rude message. I've already told him I didn't find them comments appropriate and he apologized and said he wouldn't do it again but he did the second time in which I blocked him. As for the Christian dating, I've not found someone I'm interested in chatting to, they either too old or live far away, old as in 40ish, 50 and I'm only 29 Simple answer then. Tell him as he is incapable of taking no for an answer you do not wish to hear from him again then block. You have done the right thing. Just get tough with it. Do not accept the behaviour you find unacceptable. You are 29. Have you tried expanding your social circle instead and meeting men that way? Would probably be more appropriate and less stressful. Attending church meetings, church lead groups and volunteering etc if you are into your religion...
Author faithfully Posted April 1, 2016 Author Posted April 1, 2016 Simple answer then. Tell him as he is incapable of taking no for an answer you do not wish to hear from him again then block. You have done the right thing. Just get tough with it. Do not accept the behaviour you find unacceptable. You are 29. Have you tried expanding your social circle instead and meeting men that way? Would probably be more appropriate and less stressful. Attending church meetings, church lead groups and volunteering etc if you are into your religion... I am very outgoing, I do go out and try meeting guys that way, going to bars, restaurant, clubs. I even go to the gym but don't speak to guys there as I am there to work out and get sweaty, not to find a husband. I go to meet ups but not found anybody there, I'm just a little picky!! I've not been to church recently, and the church I do go to, either married or abit old for me. After church I don't stay and talk, I just usually go home
fitnessfan365 Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 Remember...just because you give out your # doesn't mean you have to meet in person. Also, if you get a crappy text that turns you off, embrace the power of block number. In general though, I still say it's better for women to focus on guys who ask them out right away. He's 10x more likely to actually be confident in person and have good social skills. A guy that wants to email and chat online for weeks will usually either end up being socially awkward or in a relationship/married.
Toodaloo Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 I am very outgoing, I do go out and try meeting guys that way, going to bars, restaurant, clubs. I even go to the gym but don't speak to guys there as I am there to work out and get sweaty, not to find a husband. I go to meet ups but not found anybody there, I'm just a little picky!! I've not been to church recently, and the church I do go to, either married or abit old for me. After church I don't stay and talk, I just usually go home So you go to the gym but you don't talk to anyone. You go to church but you don't talk to any one... But you are out going... Mmmm - I think you and I have different ideas of what outgoing actually means. It doesn't mean just going out. It means talking to strangers and involving yourself in those around you. Talking to people, getting to know about them. At bars etc you are going to have to be more willing to put out which you are not so to put it bluntly your approach to meeting suitable guys for you sucks like a dyson. Those old biddys at church have grandsons you know... Old ladies love being match makers. Talk to them, take an interest in them. Let them know you are on the hunt for a hunky gentleman... they will know plenty... trust me. Those guys at the gym they are guys... Those women at the gym have brothers and cousins... Talk to people. You are not going to meet people unless you talk to them and be sociable with with. Anything from a hello to do you know if I can get a better result from this bit of equipment.
Author faithfully Posted April 1, 2016 Author Posted April 1, 2016 So you go to the gym but you don't talk to anyone. You go to church but you don't talk to any one... But you are out going... Mmmm - I think you and I have different ideas of what outgoing actually means. It doesn't mean just going out. It means talking to strangers and involving yourself in those around you. Talking to people, getting to know about them. At bars etc you are going to have to be more willing to put out which you are not so to put it bluntly your approach to meeting suitable guys for you sucks like a dyson. Those old biddys at church have grandsons you know... Old ladies love being match makers. Talk to them, take an interest in them. Let them know you are on the hunt for a hunky gentleman... they will know plenty... trust me. Those guys at the gym they are guys... Those women at the gym have brothers and cousins... Talk to people. You are not going to meet people unless you talk to them and be sociable with with. Anything from a hello to do you know if I can get a better result from this bit of equipment. I get what you're saying definitely!!! especially with the church part, will give it a go, cheers yes I speak to pts at the gym I used to train with, maybe can ask him to hook me up or something but as for guys at the I don't speak to them because i've ran 7k and all sweaty and stinky so not going to make conversation. I do chat to the women at the gym but mainly about exercises. will change my approach and see what happens but willing to give a few of them suggestions a go.
Toodaloo Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 Guys at the gym will be sweaty too... like you say its what you are all there for. Seriously I have pulled in a manky hoodie covered in horse poop, no make up and greasy hair... Just be yourself and talk to people. You can be as random as you like. You would be amazed what a comment like "Oh blimey I could murder a curry right now" would start with others. Be inclusive literally talk to everyone. Tell them how you love being single but would really like to find someone special. Charm them, be interested in them, take notes of their concerns and ask about them when you see them again. Yes even when you have sweaty pits and your hair is sticking to your face...
Omei Posted April 1, 2016 Posted April 1, 2016 Tbh OP I would date in real life instead of online Like you Im 29 been single for a while all those date sites I go back and end up deleting my profile within two weeks every time....yeah guys just get sexual it's so unattractive how desperate they are, and when u do meet a nice guy and you do go on a date I have always found them to be forced and awkward and there's never any communication after. It's not really how I imagine falling in love The worst ones are when they claim to have interest they keep the sex talk off the table and as soon as ur on the date they try to say things like let's go to my place bla bla and you say no I'm looking for something serious and they still try almost forceful I had a guy beg me once and I walked out on the date... Online dating is just full of creeps and if there is a normal guy on there chances are you'll miss him out of the river of people.
edgygirl Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 I gave my number this week to a guy who was pressuring me... not sure why I did it as I had a bad gut feeling, hate people pressuring, but I was on a work trip and wasn't thinking clearly. I was right... he kept pressuring me to meet before establishing any kind of rapport with me. Then when I said I don't meet people I haven't talked enough with, he said let's talk on the phone. Which I also don't like. WTH... guys have to adapt to what women want online, not the other way around. So, good idea. I am downloading kik so I can avoid giving my number from now. No lives would be ruined if all you see is a random d*ck. Can't prove anything with just a c*ck pic. You have to be pretty stupid to include your face in those kinds of pics. Same goes for women who flash their bits and pieces. You gotta know how to play the game
Curiousroxy86 Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 hi guys, been single for nearly 3 years and turning 30 in 6months. I've travelled quite abit, holidays here and there, got a great job, home, car, I'm stable in life. ive decided to get back in the dating life and I'm on a few dating sites online (3) to see what there is out there. now the problem I have is and want to know at what point do I give out my contact number?? after a few messages?? a week?? few weeks?? a few days?? and when I do give my number after chatting to these guys, they start trying to sext me or make sexual remarks that I cant stand or make me cringe and by then its too late as they have my number so rather than give my number, would you say email address is better?? bare in mind I tell these men I don't want casual that I am after a relationship I don't like giving my number to guys after a few messages or within that day of talking to them, I don't have kik, snapchat anymore, should I download it then that way they haven't got my contact number if they start acting like a dick? I don't know what to do? You may want to consider having a separate dating cell phone with call blocking. Me personally I respond to guys advancements online that have profiles that look decent and their message is decent. If they ask for my number during conservation I give it to them. If I don't like what they say I either politely decline (giving him time to self correct if it's a small offense) ignore that offensive message (again giving him time to self correct if it's still not major) or block them.
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