Bipolarlove Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 When I first got with my boyfriend, I thought we were serious as hell. But now I feel like we are stuck in the same place we have been for the last few months. I feel like we should be thinking about the future, about getting married maybe. We have talked about it and he says he want to get married and have children but always says 'not right now though '. He is used to party girls or the female version of a **** boy. He's been an out on the town guy. I have always been quiet and stay at home type. I have always had it together. I think maybe he's just not ready to give up that life yet. All his family loves me. They all say I have been good for him, he says I am his future, but I don't know when he expects that to start? We are young, so it's not like I need to rush, but I feel like he's not moving forward as of right now. Should I wait, or just tell him to step up or leave? I really love him and don't want to leave unless it's necessary
Phoenician Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 OP, There are many types or more of love . 1)-Love that is based only on Passion , attraction , youth feelings . 1)- Love built based on respect ,givology (2 way) , Vows before they start , matching personalities. 2) Love built based only on benefits , common interests. 3) Love based on ego, selfishness ,my satisfaction ... 4) finally there is Love to love and feel loved . 5) Love based on a business or social deal. You might not be able to detect his love type for you ; what is your type of love to him ? but
TaraMaiden2 Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 When I first got with my boyfriend, I thought we were serious as hell. But now I feel like we are stuck in the same place we have been for the last few months. How long have you actually been dating? I feel like we should be thinking about the future, about getting married maybe. We have talked about it and he says he want to get married and have children but always says 'not right now though 'How old are you both...? He is used to party girls or the female version of a **** boy. He's been an out on the town guy. I have always been quiet and stay at home type. I have always had it together. I think maybe he's just not ready to give up that life yet. Surely, if he's with you, he HAS given that up...? All his family loves me. They all say I have been good for him, he says I am his future, but I don't know when he expects that to start? It's all future. What you mean is settling down, having a house, a mortgage, a car, kids, financial commitments, that kind of stuff.... We are young, so it's not like I need to rush, but I feel like he's not moving forward as of right now. You can't force someone to run when all they'd like to do is walk. Should I wait, or just tell him to step up or leave? I really love him and don't want to leave unless it's necessary You can't tell him to do anything. He's not obliged to go at your pace, simply because it's what you want. Until we get an idea of ages and length of relationship, it's hard to respond more constructively.
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