apanpie Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 Hey, My character in a nutshell and the situation Im as you see new to this forum and my purpose here is not to get "Support" but to discuss about psychology, the whole "Game" between the woman and the man and how to have a sure success. Im very damn stubborn when it comes to girls. Now that I got rejected from this girl its not that Im crushed or dipressed. NOT at all. Its that it makes me want her more. I just want to damn do something with her. My whole point is that Im not sensitive, just a stubborn 17 years old who wants to know the art and technique of picking. I wont change my option, she her specifically'll be my option because I want to know that I can damn pick her up. Its egoism that's around it, not anything even near like sadness. Also, I dont consider myself a not beautiful one (not a very beautiful as well), I think Im a 6-7. But I dont count beautiness as the biggest requirement for a girl to get attracted to a boy. I think the whole thing is how you talk, what you say, and how you do it. The whole thing for me is the strategy because I know all things are spinning around psychology. And I have sense of what Im sayinf, Im not having stress, but I just may not be super creative. The story I was trying for like a year to get her out for a drink. I asked her like a thousand times. No success. I did not try to flirt her because I dont know how to flirt in a good way without messing up. Its not that I dont like risk, I just dont know how to "play" right. SO WHAT DID YOU DO ? Im in a school trip 7 days and I just said to her "I dont see you as a friend". Of course I think the "i like you" is very cliche and you only make her get unattracted from you. But I see the thing that I told her about that wrong. I know that the whole game is in flirting and playing with her (not sexist for damn sake, you play with all people ... you just have to know how and exercice your creativity) . But I thought it was the easiest and painless way for my patience after 1 year to just "express me". I just want to discuss with you guys, what should I do after the fact that I got rejected. She told me that she sees me as a friend and that she made lovers to friends but friends to lovers never. Of course Im not feeling like its a dead end, there is always an exit. She said that she doesnt see me erotically. I tried to kiss her but she pushed me gently. Please before posting something, think about it without the feel "I feel sorry for him" and more like "I want to learn/discuss with him how to play chess".
duncsvoice Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 I think you should stop referring to it as a "game", respect this girl who has made it clear she isn't interested and stop trying to force your way in to her emotions. Try just getting to know girls, and if it's right, it will develop. If it doesn't, then you've made a friend. I don't feel sorry for you, in the slightest. Women are not part of this fabled 'game'. Stop playing. 7
PogoStick Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 Is English your first language? If so, she's probably repulsed by your (lack of) mastery of it. "But I see the thing that I told her about that wrong." is no where close to a meaningful sentence. In that case, I suggest you focus on your studies because women are attracted to intelligent, capable, and successful men. If English is not your first language, my apologies. 1
smackie9 Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 You want to play the game?? Let her see you chatting up other girls. It increases your value because she is going to wonder what you have that is attracting these other girls. Tip: to make yourself desirable is to be less available. Stop giving her attention, let her see you with other girls, be distant or unfocused when you talk to her, like one work answers, be cool and aloof. You will be surprised at how she starts to try for your attention.
TheArtist Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 She's not interested and pretty much nothing will change that, so just accept her as a friend before you lose her as that too. Don't read too much into the psychology of this stuff either. While it's good to learn and is definitely fascinating, relying on it to analyse people and situations won't get you a girlfriend. You said you were no good at flirting, so learn to flirt. That's the key to attracting someone and letting them know you're interested in finding out more. Get a female friend to help (NOT THE ONE YOU'VE BEEN HITTING ON) and learn the subtleties of a silent language.
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