ilovemusic3 Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 I've been dating this guy for a month, we say we're in a relationship on Facebook, and our profile pics are with each other. We talk on the phone about an hour a night and see each other once a week. But all we do physically is a hug and peck on the lips, and he didn't seem to care about seeing me this past weekend, he just came home and played video games and was going to go 10 days without seeing me. So I went on Tinder and this other guy wants to go out with me. Should I go? 1
hippychick3 Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 Yes, after you officially end it with the first guy. 1
ianna Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 We women are stupid! You are single and my advice to you is to go out with another guy. Don't waste your time on someone who thinks of you as a friend for playing videogames. Life is too short and never stay faithfull to someone who is not your BF 1
Zahara Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 Maybe communicate to this guy as to your needs/wants and your expectations of a relationship and try to work things out with him. Have you actually talked to him? If that doesn't work then communicate that you would prefer to move on. Close that door and date others. It seems you want to keep him on the backburner while you see what's out there. How would you feel if he was dating other women behind your back? 1
TheBathWater Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 I've been dating this guy for a month, we say we're in a relationship on Facebook, and our profile pics are with each other. We talk on the phone about an hour a night and see each other once a week. But all we do physically is a hug and peck on the lips, and he didn't seem to care about seeing me this past weekend, he just came home and played video games and was going to go 10 days without seeing me. So I went on Tinder and this other guy wants to go out with me. Should I go? You are in a relationship. A commitment implies that you literally commit to see things through even when they are difficult. Leaving when the next best thing comes along? Where's the commitment in that? I'm not saying you should stay in a relationship that is not going to be satisfying, but you need to think about what you're doing here when you tell someone you are committed and then are going on smartphone dating apps to arrange to date. That's not commitment, that's cheating. Are you communicating with your current partner about how you feel in your relationship? It may be helpful to consider if that is part of the issue here. It's important in a relationship that you communicate and voice your needs and feelings, even when it doesn't feel so good to do so. If you find it difficult to do with your current partner, do you think you will repeat this pattern somehow with your next one despite how much more appealing it seems at first? I think before you decide whether or not to see other people you need to first decide if you can communicate and/or commit right now. The 'right thing' to do would be to take down your online dating profiles until you've resolved this issue. This is my own ethical bias, of course, but I can't imagine you would want your partner doing the same to you.
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