ak8080 Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 So I've been dating my boyfriend for several months. He was a virgin when we met and a lot has happened in his life during our relationship. But, in short, he's relied on me for a lot of support and i'm the first person to really connect to him and be there when he needed it most. Now, a new conflict has arisen and it seems that he is going to be transferring universities. To be honest, I don't see the relationship working long distance. I'm going to be super busy next semester (trying to graduate early) and I won't have the time to travel to see him. I don't know how to tell him how I feel. I know he is further committed in the relationship than I am, and so many bad events have happened to him in the past few months that I don't want him hurt again. Is it best if I break up soon? Or should just let the relationship die of natural causes? I feel like waiting would be better for him and again I really don't want to hurt him. What's worse is he will probably say he's willing to do whatever it takes to stay together. And I guess there are ways that it COULD work long distance, but i'm not "in love" right now and while I think that love could grow over time if he lived here, he isn't going to be so I don't see much of a chance. Anyway, what should I do? 1
Satu Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 snip Is it best if I break up soon? *Or should just let the relationship die of natural causes? I feel like waiting would be better for him and again I really don't want to hurt him. What's worse is he will probably say he's willing to do whatever it takes to stay together. And I guess there are ways that it COULD work long distance, **but i'm not "in love" right now and while I think that love could grow over time if he lived here, he isn't going to be so I don't see much of a chance. Anyway, what should I do? *That would only prolong the agony. **If you're not 'in love' now, what will magically change that? You have to be true to yourself, and if that means ending it, you have to end it. Tell him what you're told us: "I don't see the relationship working long distance. I'm going to be super busy next semester (trying to graduate early) and I won't have the time to travel to see you." Just put it to him as gently as you can, whilst knowing that however you put it, he will be hurt. It's admirable that you don't want to hurt him, but nobody gets to live an entirely pain-free life. He will be unhappy for a while, but he'll get over it. Take care. 1
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