tpt10 Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 So I am a male, 21 and about 4 weeks ago I met a girl on Instagram that went to the same college as myself. I never see her on campus, therefore I got her number on there. I took her out on a date and she told me she had a great time. She showed attraction towards me and everything. A few days later, I texted her saying that after spring break (we were both going to florida) we should go out again. She said she'd love to and I told her I would call her when we get back. Over spring break, she texted me once, and sent me a few snapchats. I kept the conversation to a great minimum because I did not want to kill the attraction. When we got back from Florida, I called her and took her out on a date. We went out on a Friday night to dinner, get dessert, and back to my house for drinks and a movie. I never did make a physical move to kiss her (or try to have sex) because I did not want her to think I wanted her for sex. Instead, I put my arm around her and watched the movie. Dropped her off and she told me again she had a great time. She showed high level of attraction. The next day I called her, she did not answer. I then texted her a few days later and said "Hey haven't heard from you in a while, wanted to know a day you were free to go out." She replied "sorry I forgot to call back lol but Ill let you know very soon!" I said okay. Its been about a week and I still have not heard from her. My she views my snapchat stories, so I know she sees some of the things I have been doing. Basically I was wondering if you were in my position, would you walk away and continue to wait and see if she contacts me or text/call her again? I do not want to come off as needy, but I really would like to see her again. Clearly she has been on my mind. Also, if she did lose interest, why do you think this is? Especially after she told me she had a great time?
Curiousroxy86 Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 right or wrong I am one of those females who will stop talking to a potential guy if a)not feeling him b)became exclusive with someone else c) talking to someone else I like way more and want to focus all my dating efforts on him d) not feeling the dating scene all together for whatever reason e) emergency came up which takes me out of dating. Now let's assume she is experiencing one of these. I think you should move on. You reached out and she did not respond. Don't waste your time on why. focus on a girl who will return your affection. That is my two cents and I approve this message
itstoni Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 So I am a male, 21 and about 4 weeks ago I met a girl on Instagram that went to the same college as myself. I never see her on campus, therefore I got her number on there. I took her out on a date and she told me she had a great time. She showed attraction towards me and everything. A few days later, I texted her saying that after spring break (we were both going to florida) we should go out again. She said she'd love to and I told her I would call her when we get back. Over spring break, she texted me once, and sent me a few snapchats. I kept the conversation to a great minimum because I did not want to kill the attraction. When we got back from Florida, I called her and took her out on a date. We went out on a Friday night to dinner, get dessert, and back to my house for drinks and a movie. I never did make a physical move to kiss her (or try to have sex) because I did not want her to think I wanted her for sex. Instead, I put my arm around her and watched the movie. Dropped her off and she told me again she had a great time. She showed high level of attraction. The next day I called her, she did not answer. I then texted her a few days later and said "Hey haven't heard from you in a while, wanted to know a day you were free to go out." She replied "sorry I forgot to call back lol but Ill let you know very soon!" I said okay. Its been about a week and I still have not heard from her. My she views my snapchat stories, so I know she sees some of the things I have been doing. Basically I was wondering if you were in my position, would you walk away and continue to wait and see if she contacts me or text/call her again? I do not want to come off as needy, but I really would like to see her again. Clearly she has been on my mind. Also, if she did lose interest, why do you think this is? Especially after she told me she had a great time? In bold is what made her lose interest in you. In italics, it's her way of blowing your off gently. She will never call. You will wait forever, To your question - I would walk away, she has low interest in you therefore she wont be good for a LTR. Only go for the women that do have high interest. If you do contact her, wait a week or two, set up up a date, if she says no, next for good.
Author tpt10 Posted March 30, 2016 Author Posted March 30, 2016 if anyone else has an opinion, feel free to post your input
introverted1 Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 Isn't this your thread, too? It's easier if you just update... The advice there was good.
kgcolonel Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 You're young, single and free.....enjoy that because at some point in your life it will be different, not necessarily worse but very different....live your life and don't fret about what might have been or worry about not receiving a response that you're hoping for or looking for, just live. My one regret in life is that i did exactly what you are doing now.....seeking answers to the point that you're potentially missing opportunities right in front of you. You treated her very respectably, if she didn't see what was right in front of her, she loses not you. You will find someone who will appreciate the man you are.
Curiousroxy86 Posted March 31, 2016 Posted March 31, 2016 You're young, single and free.....enjoy that because at some point in your life it will be different, not necessarily worse but very different....live your life and don't fret about what might have been or worry about not receiving a response that you're hoping for or looking for, just live. My one regret in life is that i did exactly what you are doing now.....seeking answers to the point that you're potentially missing opportunities right in front of you. You treated her very respectably, if she didn't see what was right in front of her, she loses not you. You will find someone who will appreciate the man you are. This. I too have spent unnecessary time wondering why he did or didn't do this. People do what they really want to do. If you don't hear from them it's because they don't want to talk to you at this time or ever. Might as well focus on someone interested
Author tpt10 Posted April 2, 2016 Author Posted April 2, 2016 I feel like she may have felt that I did not show interest in her because I never did really text her to talk because I like to talk to people on dates. Not only that, because I did not go for the kiss after the second one. SO maybe she felt like I did not have feelings for her and took the easy way out before developing stronger feelings. Like I said, I did feel like she showed high interest in me during the date and she even talked about going out on a double date with one of her friends.
Curiousroxy86 Posted April 2, 2016 Posted April 2, 2016 I feel like she may have felt that I did not show interest in her because I never did really text her to talk because I like to talk to people on dates. Not only that, because I did not go for the kiss after the second one. SO maybe she felt like I did not have feelings for her and took the easy way out before developing stronger feelings. Like I said, I did feel like she showed high interest in me during the date and she even talked about going out on a double date with one of her friends. That maybe. Just keep in mind that you did try to contact her and she is not responding to you. Do what you want but I think your better off moving on.
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