TLC87 Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 Hey guys/gals! A woman I was interested in told me a month ago that she was exclusive now with somebody else about a month and a half ago! I told her I should have gone for the kiss way before. I told her that I didn't want to be her friend and that I only saw her as someone that I wanted to date, I told her if things change with you and that guy, then to contact me at that time. She replied saying sounds good, she was sorry and she appreciated my honesty. (Here's my post from a month ago) http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/570601-she-told-me-she-s-exclusive-someone-now Yesterday she texted me saying would I be interested in getting together. And by getting together she said would you go on a date with me. I said yes, it's great to hear from you, I'd love to see you, when are you free to get together. My question is how soon should we set up a date? I mentioned Saturday, and potentially tomorrow night. I don't want to be a cold indifferent fish, however, I don't want to set something up like tonight, I said tomorrow is be free and Saturday. I told her to pick up her favourite wine and come over and we can cook dinner or go out.
Mrin Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 Cool story. You're doing fine. Let us know how it turns out!
Emilia Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 Don't you think though that she is using you because it didn't work out with the other guy?
Mrin Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 Don't you think though that she is using you because it didn't work out with the other guy? Is that using? It sounded more like the OP hadn't made his move when she decided to focus on other guy. Didn't work with other guy. OP is now back up to bat. I wouldn't be offended if I were OP
Emilia Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 Is that using? It sounded more like the OP hadn't made his move when she decided to focus on other guy. Didn't work with other guy. OP is now back up to bat. I wouldn't be offended if I were OP Yes because she might walk again when she meets someone new.
SwordofFlame Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 It sounds like OP was Plan B and he seems OK with it. I don't think you can draw any other definitive conclusion other than that. 1
Author TLC87 Posted March 29, 2016 Author Posted March 29, 2016 Ya I'm ok with it! She's 34 mature and I'm 29. She told me back in January that she didn't think things were going to work it with him. I should have made a move in that time. I made it clear to her that I didn't see her has a friend and that I should have made a move sooner. As mentioned I said contact if me things change. She did, she knows my intentions are romantic not plutonic. I went out and dated other woman and would see her here and there at work and remained professional. She told me tomorrow or Saturday would work! I understand that I am the plan B but that's what I set up with her so I didn't get friend zoned. She could be just be testing the waters to see if I'm readily available for her but I don't want to be indifferent uninterested and cold! How soon should I set up the date?
Emilia Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 Well give it a go but you seem to take the responsibility fully over how things ended last time while clearly it was down to her too. Good luck
smackie9 Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 I bet everyone has been a plan B without even knowing about it. OP best of luck.
Author TLC87 Posted March 29, 2016 Author Posted March 29, 2016 Thanks! Should I set er up tomorrow or Saturday?
Emilia Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 I bet everyone has been a plan B without even knowing about it. OP best of luck. Of course but the whole point is what you do when you know and the other person knows that you know. A different situation entirely.
Author TLC87 Posted March 29, 2016 Author Posted March 29, 2016 Ya in this case I knew, she knew I knew and I said hey if things don't work out and you want to start over then let me know, ate my humble pie and I walked away and told her that I didn't wanna just be friends
SwordofFlame Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 Of course but the whole point is what you do when you know and the other person knows that you know. A different situation entirely. Interesting point. As a guy, you can't approach a woman in a group, get rejected and then try to get with her friend afterwards. I guess guys feel differently if the situation were reversed.
Author TLC87 Posted March 29, 2016 Author Posted March 29, 2016 Big time! Feels like the ball is in my court now after she said by get together would you go on a date with me and I understand if you wouldn't.
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