deep_night Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 Are there traits or behaviours in a woman that inspire you to be better? Or it's just the feelings you have for the woman that push you forward? 1
dichotomy Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 I am not sure this is not what you were looking for - and some might not like my answer - but they have "inspired me" to be less sensitive, weak, and dependent on them for my own worth or esteem. It does not matter if this was inspired in a positive way or a negative way (it has been both) but I am a stronger man for it
preraph Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 I'm not a guy, but I'm answering anyway, because there are quite a few guys who have told me I inspired them to follow their dreams and that sort of thing.
Robert Z Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 (edited) Are there traits or behaviours in a woman that inspire you to be better? Or it's just the feelings you have for the woman that push you forward? Yes, a woman with whom I fell madly in love, almost 30 years younger than I, who was working as an escort and then became my sugar baby for the next three years, constantly inspired me. She was perpetually positive, practical, and insightful. She always saw the positive in situations and often saw what I was missing. Even now, a year after she left me crying in my beer, when I'm feeling especially down or overwhelmed, I can hear her in my head making me see the positive side of things. She is infectious that way. It is a way of approaching life where you simply refuse to be overwhelmed by the negative. No matter what, you find the positive and focus on that. And my life has been made much better because or her. I helped her finish college and she has gone on to be successful in her field very quickly. She is the most amazing woman I have ever met and she will always be the love of my life. [PS. She is a stunning beauty as well! For three years I was in heaven. She was a gift beyond words.] Edited March 30, 2016 by Robert Z
66Charger Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 There are no specific traits. But the feeling of love (or pending family) can straighten out a guy real quick.
SammySammy Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 Inspire me to be a better man? No. I'm self-motivated. I strive to be my best, but I'm doing it for myself. Never for someone else. However, I do admire many women. It's usually someone who's confident and self-assured. A woman who has her act together - living life well, but doesn't make a big deal of it. Strength with grace. It's a beautiful thing. I also admire women with great passions. A purpose, something she strives for. Something that drives her. A fire inside. That's always intriguing to me. Lastly, I really admire women who embrace their womanhood. Their femininity. Their sexiness. They don't have to make a show of it, but someone who loves being a woman. She just ... is ... without saying or doing anything special ... that alluring and fascinating creature that has made men pay attention for time immemorial. You know it when you see it. And it's beautiful to watch.
Author deep_night Posted March 30, 2016 Author Posted March 30, 2016 thank you guys i appreciate the replies :3 someone recently told me that i inspire him because i encourage him (not in a patronising way, just pointing out his strengths). he also wants to be in a better place so we can do more stuff together. i wonder if he's falling for me and that's the reason, or if he just appreciates the way i treat him.
GoodOnPaper Posted March 30, 2016 Posted March 30, 2016 Are there traits or behaviours in a woman that inspire you to be better? Or it's just the feelings you have for the woman that push you forward? I've only experienced such inspiration once - already being married, I couldn't let anything romantic develop and had to break off the friendship - but it was a very liberating feeling. Instead of just her traits, I think of it more as how we connected. The masculine/feminine balance was perfect - i felt i didn't have to constantly push myself toward some idealized alpha version of masculinity. Yet because of this, I actually felt even more like the man in the relationship. As importantly, she could challenge me intellectually without making it seem competitive or personal. That's something that, at least with me, is difficult to pull off. 1
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