captivepulse Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 (edited) So I was basically forced to breakup with my boyfriend of a year and a half about 4 days ago. Our whole relationship had been wonderful until the last 4 months. He was having trouble getting into college and his parent's were putting lots of pressure on him, or so he claimed. As time went on he started to become someone else, he started to treat me differently, he would mostly talk to me like he didn't even want to be around me. Eventually the gut feeling became so overwhelming I had to ask him if he wanted to breakup. He would tell me no, but still that feeling sat in my gut and I knew something was wrong. Finally it got to a point where he started to be pretty much emotionally abusive, he always treated me like I was crazy and would get angry at me if he made me cry. I struggled so hard because I loved what we had before, I loved the him I thought I knew, I didn't want to accept that all our plans for all this time were never going to happen now. And the biggest mistake I made through the whole thing was giving him my everything and now I'm left with nothing while he sits and waits to get into dental school. What hurts the most right now is that when I told him I think we should just be friends, he became very angry, and then when I told him goodbye, he didn't say a word and we hung up our call. I texted him and told him how bad it hurt and asked why things ended up like this, he never responded. The next day he took me off his status as a gf on facebook and took our picture down, still no text back. He is basically treating me like I never existed and it hurts so much. And now I'm finding out that he's already talking to other girls and that he had hid some things from me while we were dating. How can people treat others like this? Why did he lead me on for so long and forced me to breakup with him instead of him doing it himself? Why is it so easy for him to pretend we were nothing and to already move on to other girls even after telling me he had no time for a relationship because of school and work? He told me that everyday for months he needed to hardcore study to get into a good school, yet now that we are apart he spends a majority of his time online playing video games(mutual friends have told me). How do I stop obsessing over him, missing him, wishing he would message me that he wants to get back together? How do I stop feeling like my life is over and I'm not good enough and that I'll never meet someone as good as him even though he was a bad partner? Edited March 29, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Edited for paragraphs
Scarlett.O'hara Posted March 29, 2016 Posted March 29, 2016 It is going to take some time. Just try and focus your energy away from him and back on yourself. Do things that help you feel good about yourself and keep your mind busy. As painful as it is right now, the fact that he has behaved like such a cowardly, deceitful jerk will be the fuel that will help you get over him in the long run. It may not feel like it now but you dodged a bullet.
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